Good day house, please bear with me here. I've never shared this with anyone. Not even my family. First let me start off with a short introduction. I have been married to my wife for 5 years, together for 6, with no children. Life has blessed us well and all that good stuff. She got her dream job after university and I went off to study law, but I joined the army when there was no job, and was deployed for 2 years back in 2009. It was hard for me not being there every day but we talked when we could, and I missed her a lot. Definitely one of the most difficult years of my life. Got an honorable discharge, came home and was excited to see her. When I got home we had incredible s.x of course. The second day I was home and we were eating breakfast she confessed that she had affair with my (former) best friend for a whole year. I flipped out and destroyed half the house. As a result, I was arrested and held for a while. Luckily I was allowed to go home, but I decided to separate from her for 3 months. During the time both him and her called me a lot but I wished to speak to none of them. After separation we talked and "made up". We went to marital counseling for 2 months and I was not really satisfied with it, but stuck to it because I still loved her. She has made a lot of changes since this whole ordeal, I'll give her that, but it just doesn't feel the same anymore. The thing now is, I just got a new job with a really good pay, and I have until Thursday to respond on whether I want to accept a position they're offering. The only drawback is that I will most likely have to relocate, since it's not based in Lagos, and I honestly don't want to have to spend a lot of money traveling and worrying if my wife is going to cheat on me or not since I will be gone for a very long time. She's changed a lot but I think I would be a fool to say that I have the same level of trust I had with her years ago. Basically what I'm saying is, I don't think I want to be married to my wife anymore. I feel like I've been dragged down by this marriage and I've been unemployed ever since I was discharged, and I've only worked a few part-time jobs. I feel like this proposition could help reboot my career and at the same time I can do what I always liked doing. My wife knows I'm seriously considering this and I don't think she's too happy about it. Would I be wrong for taking this job and leaving her? Part of me wants to and part of me doesn't.