Good day mamas, I'm after some objective opinions please. I'm upset however don't know if I'm over-thinking it or perhaps I'm being a little naive. Recently I've discovered that my husband has been private messaging an "ex" both were actually cheating on their respective spouses at the time they were together, however the messages had been deleted so I have no idea of the content. These messages occurred over the period of a few days that happened to coincide with me being overseas at the time. I previously met this lady when my husband and I first started dating years ago however she was only ever introduced as a friend and it was only after some questioning that I was made aware of the full extent of their "friendship." There has been a previous incident with the same person whereby my husband and her exchanged some inappropriate (in my opinion) text messages on a night out where they coincidentally happened to be at the same bar. I was home, 8 months pregnant, and the messages were showing up on our iPad. As far as I was aware however, there hadn't been any contact between them for at least 2-3 years. There has been other instances throughout our short relationship (5yrs together, 2yrs married) where my husbands actions towards other women have been questionable or as he likes to put it, "misinterpreted", but we have always put our family first and moved forward. I know that he hasn't slept with any other woman throughout our relationship but it does make me question why he would be communicating with this woman while I'm overseas and then deleting messages. He is extremely possessive however and is always questioning me about who I'm talking to, what I'm wearing, who I sat next to at work etc which makes me wonder if it's him projecting some of his own behaviours onto me. I have never been unfaithful (not even close to it!) but he is extremely paranoid.  Any advice is appreciated and thank you to those who read this ?