Hello house please help me. I have a son out of wedlock, his mom was a night stand I had when I was still serving in Osun state. Now I am married but we are still TTC and we have been married for 4 years now. Initially when this lady came to meet me that she was pregnant, I didn't accept it, I lied that I wasn't responsible even though I was the one that dis*irgined her. She cried and cried but I said I wasn't responsible still, plus she was just 17 then and she had just finished secondary school, I knew she was going to pull me back. I finished and I came to Lagos to hustle , after 3 years, I went back to accept full responsibility but I was told the girl had relocated to Abuja, I tried to reach her but I couldn't, I tried every means possible but I didn't get a hold of her and her parents didn't help matters either. Now, 10 years later, my son is 13 years old now and the lady's mom called me and gave me her number, I called her and she gave me her address in Abuja, I traveled down to see her and she and she brought my son to greet me, she introduced me to him as his father and he said mummy I thought my father was dead, who is this man. His mother tried to make him listen but the next thing he said was that if this man is not married to you, then he isn't my father, my father died before I was born. I was so sad, I didn't know when I started to cry. I have been in Abuja for days now trying to get him to me but he is bent on the fact that I have to marry his mother because she has gone through a lot in the hands of men because she has him and she has never for once denied him or be embarrassed of him. This boy is too young for all the things he is saying, I feel his mother is telling him what to say and how to act towards me. Please house, what do you suggest I do because I can't marry her as I am already legally married to another woman. Please help me.