Good day mamas and papas in the house, please I need advice on how to help my friend. I am 17 years old boy, i just wrote JAMB awaiting to enter university and I have a friend of mine that is 16, we both just graduated from secondary school and she told me some ugly truths about herself that I cannot tell my parents because if I do, they will tell me not to talk to her again that she is bad influence and she needs a friend that can put her right and I don't know how to help. This my friend confided in me and told me that her cousin violated her at the age of 14, he had an.l sex with her. She said she has done terrible things with him that she isn't proud of. She said her mother is not mentally okay that she is suffering serious depression and is in psychiatric care while her father is a chronic drunk and womanizer that doesn't have her time, he just gives her money and leaves her alone all by herself. She said, at 14, she has started going to parties, clubs, hanging out with men old men and guys between 20 and 30 years. She said there is no s.x position that she hasn't done. She told me that her cousin first forced his way on her and opened her up for more s.xual experiences. She said till today, she is traumatized each time she sees her cousin even though she has had s.x with him like 10 times that she still gets scared of him. I asked her how many men she has been with and she said over 20 but she's not sure. I looked at her like she was just lying and was just trying to sell me a story but when she took me to her house, I confirmed all that she said. Her mother was home in the parlour, when we entered, she didn't even greet her mother she just took me straight to her bedroom and her mother didn't bother to ask where she was taking me to. She just sat down mute, staring at the fan. Her father was not around, when I entered her room, she started touching my thing through my trousers and she said she was just trying to measure me. It took a lot from me to be able to tell her to stop especially because I was scared of her infecting me. I am trying not to judge her because even in church, they teach us to show love to this kinds of people. Her mom is getting better now and I have told her about her daughter and that she needs help although, I didn't tell her that she was r.ped by her cousin, I just let her know that her daughter has been mol.sted and is now traumatized. I know all of this because my sister is a nurse and I gisted her her briefly because I didn't tell her it was my friend I was talking about so she didn't offer much help, she only diagnosed her to be traumatized of her r.pe incidents. Please, I need to know what else I can do for this my friend, for her to have confided in me it is because she has admitted that she needs help. I just need to know if there is any child abuse agency or therapist in Lagos Nigeria that I can reach out to on her behalf and if there is any other way I can help, please let me know. Thank you
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