Good morning mamas and papas, am in a confused state that I don't know what to do or act as not to make a mistake, I really need Mamalette advice, advice as your daughter, sister. I saw a chat between my hubby and ex, he addresses the ex as baby, nwayioma, etc. So I confronted him and told him how uncomfortable that makes me, communicating with his ex coupled with names he uses, he said OK he won't call her the names again and won't communicate her again,before said he won't communicate again he try turning it against me why I should tell him whom to communicate with and why I went through his phone, this happened in Feb.so I left for school. And when we meet again during the Esther period,i found out he still communicates her, that Easter the is the ex trad, which he didn't tell me about or asked me to go with him since he sees it as nothing,he doesn't even want me to know that he's going for his ex trad cos he knew I ll be angry, till I find out and asked why. I made him to understand that I don't want him to attend that ceremony, but he insisted and went and was even frowning for me, I have to let go and apologized, again on Thursday I saw he still communicate with her,i confronted him and told him we need to put an end to this cos I won't be talking about it again.. I asked him to delete her number whatsapp and all that he refused.... I threatened him that if he refuse to do what I asked him to that I ll call the ex's husband ñ tell him to warn his wife. Imagine he's afraid for her by telling me that so I want to pursue her from her husband's house but he won't bother about my happiness (but that was just a threat I don't mean it cos I believe that it's left for my hubby to stop communicating her himself ) I got the guy's number from their invitation. not like they re seeing each other but am just not liking it, it makes Me uncomfortable him refusing what I asked him to do for peace to reign is making me think otherwise, doesn't he love me enough to do what I asked of him for me to be happy or he is still in love with her, he left her before he met me, since that thurs he's been keeping malice ñ me am ready to beg him or anything cos he's taking my love,respect ñ loyalty for granted, I told him I also have ex but I choose to respect him ñ our marriage cos I see it as disrespect. Or as not getting over that person.. Each time I see their chat he raises the matter up he tell me am making issue out nothing... I told him to choose btw my happiness or his ex, let me know what to do and he said I he can't answer me that I should do what's on my mind...mamas is this right or am I really making issue out of nothing, is it right to be in contact with an ex. What should I do to make him see reasons with me or he knows and his ego is not letting him. His cousin sister told me that he's wrong and need to apologize that I should maintain whatever am doing that am in my right. (he goes about praising me at my back he brags about me for his family ñ anyone that cares to listen, that his wife is a good woman ñ am what he asked from God) his cousin told me this,and am wondering why he is doing this.. Am sorry for the long write up