Dear Mamalettes, I need your advice in the house please. I broke up with my boyfriend who was very selective with food and abusive to some extent that he pleaded and we reconciled again and promised to change but I refused because I know the future won't be easy with him. Few months later I started dating a guy in my school my course mate same level in the university, the guy is so caring. Hardworking and intelligent in class I fell in love and he even engaged me I felt I was deeply in love and I would end up with him not until I discovered he has seizure and weak joint in the hands the bones always comes out and he would cry like a baby until it is fixed in the hospital and it's always very expensive to fix it back. He swore the seizure started when he met me I was scared I thought it's epilepsy I called his mom and asked if he has this problem she said No,the guy use to be a very heavy drunkard he can drink a crate a day until I came into his live and changed him A doctor said the cause of the seizure might be withdrawal from alcohol or something else from childhood .. As time went on I discover the guy lies to Me a lot he leaves in a room with a girl which he lied to me was his sister but I later found out she is his Ex girlfriend, he ones lied to me that his parent where in China but I knew vividly well that they are in Nigeria he has told me so many big lies that each time I catch him he always cries like a baby for forgiveness but Some he denies them and still claim is true , I forgive him Now recently the seizure happened in class again and he was rushed to the hospital while we were in the hospital a friend of his approached me in fact two friends and asked me if he has stopped taking drugs as in hard drugs I was so shocked that I almost cried then I said He don't take drugs they laughed and told Me to watch him well or always trow any drugs I see in his pocket. The guy is very good but he is a liar & he is very quiet.. My spiritual life with him is very very poor we don't pray together we don't involve in church activities I've tried but he always brings me down.. Last year I got a new boyfriend my tribal guy what my people always wanted and I in turn think it has so many advantages marrying some one you know his origin his base and all that, the guy is very handsome but that's not the point. He loves God so much and has pushed me closer to God my spiritual Life is awesome now he is hard working, respectful and very sincere he don't tell me lies and I can attest to that, he is a pharmacist though not served yet but he doesn't have pride at all despite the fact that he is very cute with a good profession he is never proud of himself the way other guys in his position would do the guy is so good that even my family like him now, The problem now is I leave in the same compound with my school boyfriend and we are in the same department I don't know how to quit him each time I try to I always pity him and pity myself cos he might harm me and I know people will insult us despite all the show of love around school then we breakup while still in school, my other boyfriend is not even in the same town with me to console me and I know he is been faithful but am cheating and I feel so bad we are making plans to get married next year am graduating from school this year but am scared if he finds out am still with the guy I claim to be my Ex he may never trust me again even though he caught me ones I pleaded and broke up with my school guy in his presence but we still settled with my school guy again.... Pls help I need serious advice thank you all, I even discovered that my school boyfriend too is very selective with food no draw soup no local food and weak in bed he lives on Viagra's but my other boyfriend is naturally strong and very good in exercise with him I will be a better woman no laziness, no unnecessary fatness & we have great future plans unlike the blind school relationship but am 100% sure they bought truly love me