Good day house, please I need advice from you all. I am trying to make peace with my wife. We have been married for 10 years. The first year was blissful but then we fell into the routine and were hit by the recession too. I reacted badly to my wife's demands and problems, I was mean and unhelpful many times. I did not show her love. Fortunately she is a strong woman and she always gave as good as she took. We are separated, living in the same house and I have set about proving to her that I can be a good loving husband. However, she is full of resentment against me, she realizes that I am trying to soften her heart and brings up a barrier almost every time we talk. I have once apologized profusely for things I did or did not do but of course she was not going to have a change of heart there and then. She goes from periods when she is friendly, chatty and laughs at my jokes to periods when she hardly speaks to me, does not smile and even snaps at me for no reason. My question is what is the process to soften a woman whose heart is so hardened? is it a long process? How do I do it?Of course I know that now buying her presents every week is not going to work.