Me and my boyfriend were having a lovely night together and he called me by his ex's name. I'm so hurt and can't get past it, what should I do? I met my boyfriend in November, when he had been single for about 8 months after his ex of 3 years, chinwe, dumped him. He was really hurt over their break up and tried to get back with her but she wasn't interested. He doesn't talk about her often at all but I know they were in love and she was a big part of his life. By the time he met me he said he was 100% ready to move on, but I've always been insecure about her because I didn't think he had been single for long enough to really be over it. He insisted that he was. The other day we had a huge argument because he used to make loads of effort with Chinwe on special occasions, yet with me he doesn't make any at all. This really hurt me because I felt like I was just a low-maintenance substitute for her that he couldn't really be bothered with. I tried my best to get past it and he has been making more effort since we discussed it.
Last night, we were enjoying ourselves together and then we were just sitting and talking and he accidentally referred to me as Chinwe (his exes name). I was so shocked and hurt and couldn't believe he had actually said it. The worst part is he didn't even realize. Once I told him he apologized loads and felt awful that I was so upset, but it didn't really make it better. I still feel really bad and like I'm just a replacement for this girl he loved so much. Then, to top it all off, this morning when we were in bed cuddling he called me a specific nickname he used to call her (and that he's never called me before).
I'm seriously thinking about ending it - the only issue is that I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him which is making it really hard. I just feel like I'm constantly being hurt in the relationship and I'm tired of living in Chinwe's shadow. I have no idea where to go from here. I've suggested a break so I can think things over but I don't know what to do.