Good day house, My wife and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 4 year old daughter. Since we have been married, my wife has been increasingly generous with her time (our time) in the support of others and refuses to provide even a courtesy heads-up to me before offering to do these things. Two quick examples from the past 2 months: My wife volunteered to host her co-workers (45+ people) Easter party at our house one weekend without talking to me first. Our entire weekend was consumed with preparation. My wife regularly offers to babysit her brother's daughter, often overnight, without talking to me first. This favor has never been returned by my brother-in-law to watch my daughter; my wife says she would never ask him to do it as she would worry about push-back from him. The same applies to her mother whom often babysits this same niece but has never, once, offered to babysit our daughter. On many occasions when my mother-in-law watches my niece she "needs help" from my wife. When I express my frustration about these things with my wife she immediately resorts to two responses that "I am anti-social and we have nothing else better to do, so why not?" My response is that I am not even close to being anti-social (I work in sales!) and that since we both have big families and full-time jobs, our time together is precious to me or she woyld say, "Why do I need to ask your permission? If I told you about these things in advance you would just say no". My response is that I won't necessarily say no, I just feel like I deserve the opportunity to provide input. Am I just being a miserable? I honest-to-God do NOT want to control my wife or tell her what to do with her free time, but I just feel like we barely spend any time together as it is (she works weekends and up until 7pm during the week). She is extremely sensitive and gets so mad when I try to address these things it will literally result in her being mad at me for days, no matter how delicately I try to present my feelings. It's a lose-lose situation for me.