Advice needed. My mother left when my brother was a little baby because she wanted to live her own life and came back and left finally for the last time. My dad left the military and we moved to Abuja. She would check in with people to find out how i was doing. i saw her again when i was 13 years old, but the meeting was with other people and it felt really uncomfortable because she didn't seem to like how i looked, i was too big as she said throughout the years i would call her sister and ask if she knew where my mom was at, but she would always say i haven't talked to her. i don't believe that to be true at all and i think that they were covering for her. In my late 20's i was able to track her down and she would call me every weekend, but then the phone calls slowed down. she told me about the other children she had. After a year or so of talking, she encouraged me to call other people and she told me how guilty she felt (I assumed for her leaving me). Right before she stopped texting me I found out i was pregnant, but i wanted to hit that 3 month mark before telling her, I reached out to her and she never responded back to me. after my son was born i couldn't understand how my mother could leave me and it upset me so much. a couple of years later, i finally reached out to my half brother on facebook explaining to him who i was. i realized things were over between my mother and i, but i figured the truth should be made known to him and i wanted to get to know him. my half brother is almost 18, so when he went to our mother she told them i was someone who wanted money and that she didn't have other children, etc, despite me providing pictures with her and i and telling him things about our side of the family that i stranger wouldn't know. i didn't have more proof than that, but now i have text messages from my mother and her friend acknowledging i am who i say i am. also, i have never asked for money from my mother, neither has my brother or father. my mother panicked and did whatever she could to track me down and got a hold of me and told me not to talk to the other kids because they are too young to know and that she will tell them when they are much older and have children of their own. i accept that my mother doesn't want to have a relationship with me, but she really burned my father badly and he didn't deserve it at all. my family and i lived in a car and in a shelter, despite all of this we never spoke badly of her. I want to show my half brother that he is being lied to and that he has another brother. would it be bad if i did that by showing him the text messages? i don't want to bad mouth our mother to him, but i want to let him know there is other siblings who will be there for him and we would like to meet him someday if he is down for it. i really think my mom needs to own up to her wrong doings too. please tell me what you think. if you have any questions feel free to ask.