I have been with my hubby for 7 years but married for 5 years with kids. We dated for 8 months and throughout the 8 months I was using drugs for preventing pregnancy, at a point I had hormonal imbalance, I went to see a doctor which after the test the doctor said my hormone was high and it will be difficult for me to get pregnant and I should stop the drugs. Then I stopped the drugs. I thought I will not give birth in future that made me not to even use c.nd.m, I really want to test my fertility. after 3 months I got pregnant for my hubby who was my boy friend then. He ask me to go for ab.rtion but I refused and remind him what the doctor said about my health, he told his parents that I was pregnant for him but I am not wife material, I cried because I really loved him then, his mother was the one that begged him for good 8months before he accept to marry me. i went my elder sister to share my problem wit her but she was telling me that if i don't make him to marry me, that no man will marry a lady with a baby. i begged before he came and did introduction, after that i start staying with him, he not regard me, call girls in my presences, he go out and come back any time he want. the most painful one was, when i was in labour he came to hospital to be wit me then the nurse sent him to go and get me food so that they will give m injection, can you believe he left by 12noon and switch off his phone till 6;30pm without the food. it was a nurse that later went and got the food for m. after the incident, i make up my mind that i wil not go on with the marriage that i will leave once my baby is 1year but unforturnate for m, i took in after 10months, i don't want people to mock me, i have to use my savings and beg him lets do wedding..i married my self becos i paid for all the bills concerning the wedding which i regretted becos a day before the wedding he beat m with the pregnancy and after the wedding he wil beat m and leave the house for months, my people wil be begging him to return home then after 4years i got pregnant again, the doctor book m for CS i ask him to get m food before they gave m injection, he left and return after 8hours, after a friend got food for m and CS have already done without his presence in the hospital. for good 7years i cant boast of a pen or any gift from him, be it christmas day, easther, val, birthday or mothers day. thesame with our 3 kids, i pay house , i pay school fees and buy cloths for my children. only what he buy is food sometimes. i have complain to his parents, they said i should endure and understand that he is still young, he is 34 and i am 32.. he was a banker, they lay him off becos of a woman and since then he has refused to pick up another job, any job he sees, he wil tel you one story or the other, either the pay is small or the transport is small. my bro. gave m a car, i hand the car over to him for airport taxi, anytime one problem to another, if VIO no catch him, FRSC wil catch him or the car spoil, ok give m my car , he said the car is his life. there wil be no food in my house but my hubby wil go and fuel the car or go and service the car. i work and have a shop. if i close from work by 2;30, then i wil take my kids home and rush to the shop for business. my hubby wil go out for the a hole day and return wit noting. how long wil i continue like this. did i tell you that he beat m two weeks after i did CS, for good 7years. my father is late and my mom is having BP, i dont want to border them wit all this problem, my uncle wil mock m intead to help me, my sister told m, no man wil marry me after having a child wit another man but i have realized is a lie. i am confuse, i want to separate from him for now then when he is ready, he can come and marry m properly.. i dont know whether is right thing to do..