Good morning lovely people in this forum, God bless everyone. Please I am emotionally down presently . My husband of 2yrs is a very secretive person. I do not know how much that comes in & goes out in the home. He locks His phone all the time. So yesterday night, I manage to go through his phone which He gave to His mother to view some pictures. So , when my mother -in - law finished viewing the pix, she gave me the phone to give back to my husband . So I quickly went through his messages & finds out He sends money to His people on monthly bases. All are married oh. I am not against that anyway, but my corncern is that he does not give me money, he don\'t tell me what is going on financially , he do not give to my own people unless during Christmas . I was working before I got married to him, but due to some reasons child birth & new environment , I resigned. I have been nursing our baby , cooking & cleans the house.I told him I want to get a job He refused. That since He provides for the family, no need for me to get job now. Note, no monthly allowance , no access to his account, nothing for me except food & clothing.I feel so frustrated seeing him sending money out without informing me or giving me my own share. Mind you He has trust issues & a miser. How do I cope? I really need to have something doing but he won\'t allow me. I do not feel valued or appreciated in this marriage . How do I cope? Also , his sisters are telling him some stuff , their mother is living with me oh , yet they are not satisfied with every thing I have been doing for their mother she has been sick .Me I am tired .