l am going through an emotional phase. I am a separated mother of three children. I hv bn the sole provider in the family. My husband lost his job in our stage of the marriage, l clothe and fed him for over five years. Even when he eventually got a new job that l thought the burden will be reduced by his assistance no matter how little, na lie, he rushed and entered schl thereby not rendering any assistance. I found no relief still. My husband can not boast of paying any of his children schl, the closest was paying half payment for the last child whose schl fee was the lowest, l think he paid the part payment which he leaves the remaining part for me to pay two terms (half payment first term and paid another half payment second term) and stopped till today. This marriage is over twenty yrs now. I hv bn the one taking care of the children both feeding, paying house rent and schl fees from craddle to university level. He works and earns salary. I hv been doing all of these without fight though l complain bitterly without result, l just hv to put everything in the hands of God. Most night l cried and consoled myself at the same time since l hv no one to run to for help even my family, it was really though for me raising these children. There was a time the children were sharing one sachet of milk for their tea. All these things l endured. Fast forward to what led to our separation. Though we had our quarrels which we settled afterwards before this seperation but the one that broke the camel back was his constant threat with cut lass. Every little provocation he reaches out for a cut lass. My people adviced me to leave the marriage since he is threatening my life and coupled with the incessant domestic violence in the country which more often than none leads to death. I left with my children. He never cared as usual though l hv bn used to it anyway. He gave me the disgrace of my life in the street. Telling anyone that cared to listen that l was a following me for money, that l was a bad luck to him, told the children he did not pay their mother pride price, that l put juju in one of the rooms and that l wear a particular ring for my work. When l heard all of this allegation, l cried and called God to show himself and cleared me. God does his things at his own appointed time not ours. I left the area with shame and humiliation. Did l tell you he parked out n left the family? I had to quickly move to one village that l was building a small house, very far from my office. None of his family tried to broker peace btw us, l felt he must hv told them abominable things about me. I bear no grudge cos my God is faithful. He even paraded a lady he wntd to marry after our seperation to my son to see. Threatened going to my office to lay allegation against me so l will be sacked. Told ppl l was a bastard cos my mother had me with another tribe, my grandmother refused the union, brought me up then my mother remarried. He gathered the children also and told them that their mother is a bastard; this one ran my family mad my son cried and couldnt eat that day, the girls hated their father for that and asked me not ever accept him back. All of these l kept to myself never told anyone even my closest friends but some of my friends have known abt the seperation now but not all. This week he has started begging me for a reconciliation without seeing my family which l ignored his test msg and call. Never told my family of this development yet. My family has asked him to proof to then that l am into native doctor to hold his star and how l am a bastard and so many others which he has refused but wants back yard reconciliation without involving them. My take is why does he want now that l hv almost finished training the children? ls he coming now because l am getting better now than before?