Good day house, please I need advice. I am new here and I am hoping to find some input as I am very confused about this. I am 38 and my husband is 40. We have been together for 14 years and our s.x life has never been all that great but I never thought anything of it until recently. We have recently been through a patch of 16 months where we did not have s.x once. No intimacy at all, but because this was not the first time having a long stretch of zero intimacy, once again I did not read too much into it - I always thought it was just us or "normal" as I have never been in another long relationship to know the difference. However, about a year ago someone who I had started to confide in, asked me if my husband was gay. I think this planted the seed in my head. Then one night about six months ago, we went to dinner with friends, and my husband "jokingly" kissed his male friend (and they actually went in for a kiss on the lips), but my husband had his tongue out to start with. Then that same night, my husband joked about him and this friend of his needing to get a room and the rest of us just laughed over it like it was a joke. So that was that until two weeks ago when we were at a party. This same male friend of his was there, as were many other people (about 40 people). My husband got really really drunk and I was driving so i refused all alcohol. So this left me sober and observant. My husband was basically all over this man. Everyone else did not really notice because he was doing it in a quiet manner even though he was drunk, but I was being quietly observant. My husband would go up to this man friend of his and kiss him, hug him, and touch his bum. He also pinched his bum twice. Then the most worrying thing I saw was when they were both standing at the bar. My husband leaned in to tell this guy friend something and he put his hand down and cupped his friends genitals. I was sitting about 5 metres away and due to the angle I was sitting and line of sight, only I would have seen this. My husband had no idea I was watching. It was a quick movement but I have been wondering ever since if my husband is really and truly gay? He was more all over the men than the women. But this one particular male friend of his seems to be the object of his affection. Is he gay, or am I just reading far too much into this?