Dear Mamalettes, thanks for all your advice. I always come here to seek for advice as I'm trying to avoid third parties in marriage even though I do few times. So I have just delivered, my baby is a month. I was attending classes while pregnant and was just preparing for exams before I delivered. So I managed to read with baby and started writing exams when baby was two weeks plus. Thank God in through now. My mum was with me throughout this period. She just left few days ago. I did virtually all the house chores, though my husband goes to street market most of the times or I stop over from school to buy stuff to cook. My mum is old and couldn't do so much apart from bathing baby. In fact she added more work to me. She is hypertensive, has ulcer and waist pains so she couldn't do much. But the work she added were like forgetting to flush toilet after weeing and pooing, not cleaning where she stayed to eat. Sending me small small messages too. I cook, wash both plates and clothes, clean the house, go to street market a times, baby is on exclusive so we were feeding 24/7. I breast feed and read. He is on exclusive, then I was writing exams. Coupled with plenty talks that mothers tell us about Omugwo as this is my first child( you all know the plenty talks associated with first child, do this, don't do that, ancient tales, myth and believes). This period was so stressful and depressing but I tried to prove to everyone I could multitask and be is successful in my exams irrespective of what. My problem is that I have long b talking to hubby about bringing a child to stay with me but he has always refused without any cogent reason. The only I could remember is that he can't take an extra mouth. And I said instead of all the food we've been wasting, with this person, we won't have food remaining. A cousin of mine was beaten to death by her husband who is on the run. Story has it that he has been a bad person and even initiated the wife into stealing. She has six children 16-3 years. I begged my hubby to allow me take the one that is about 10 years. He has never ever granted my request except it generates into quarrel and then people from outside intervene and tell him it is the right thing to do. I talked about it severally while I was pregnant till now I delivered. I just told him the last time that when I deliver, I will bring somebody but he said nothing. So my cousin, went to the village and called me he was coming back same day. So I told him to bring the girl. I called hubby to tell him about it but before I could say, he said low battery that we would talk when he comes back. He came back late and we slept. Early in the morning, I told him about it but he claimed he didn't hear me talking that. The girl came and he won't let her in. He called my elder sister that has been painting me black to justify all her maltreatment to me while I lived with her (story for another day). This is my sister that was always telling me how the kids are in the village with old grandmum and sufferings. I felt sorry and started wanting to help. She tried all means to exculpate herself from the fact that she was aware that i was bringing the girl. Meanwhile I called her when I couldn't reach my husband about the fact that i was bringing the girl. She talked my mum into being against me. I was in the market yesterday for shopping when they were bombarding me with calls and saying all manner of things. Anytime I have problem with my hubby, they always take his side. They are trying to impress and be nice to him and I keep wondering why whether is because hubby's dad us rich and they are expecting whether he will extend his goodies to them, not like my sister is not having o. The whole thing got me so depressed and sick. After I pleaded with hubby to remember how we were TTC for awhile and I donated to Orphanage and conceived same month. That he should be considerate. Although my second sister who said i truly needed somebody said i should leave the kids because they could exhibit trait of stealing like their parents and I told her its only a matter of orientation and prayer, they would change especially these young ones. Yesterday was so tough for me especially as my elder sister talked to my hubby on phone denying the fact that she ever had hint about it. Please house, with all these I'm going through, don't I need somebody? Since my mum left, I can't do any house chores because of the baby even to cook or bath as he would be crying. Hubby expects me to be dropping baby at his mum's place if i need my time as she stays in same environment but not same flat. Please advice me. I'm depressed