For my friends bachelorette party 4 years ago we went to a club in my friends home town (Abuja) while out there we met a boutique shop owner and he asked us to dine with him and his friends. he is a little older then me (I was 24 him 39) after a really great time (no s.x) I got his number. We have been in constant contact now for the last 4 years. Soon he came to my town and invited me to see him. I took him up on the offer and we spent all night having amazing s.x (7 times or so). So we have been meeting about every 3-6 months for a night or more of fun. recently he told me how bad his day was going so I sent a cute voice message telling him to smile and he texted back "you make me smile, hahah.. I think I might love you" I thought it was a joke because he is a funny guy so I texted back "haha just thought you would like to hear my voice". He took awhile to respond and all he said was "yea whatever.." And I told him I thought it was a joke. After not hearing from him for an hour or so texted back "that wasn't a joke was it?" And he replied with a simple "No" I feel bad, having him to talk to often has been wonderful. He seems hurt and has told me he really wants to spend some time with me soon how do I keep our relationship the way it is without hurting his feelings? I feel horrible that he put it out there and I just took something that big as a joke. Should I bring it up when we see each other? Should I ask him if he still feels that way? I really want to know if he does love me.