I will be 28 by July and by hubby is 10yrs older than I am, we got married 6yrs ago. I was pregnant while we got married and had a baby girl months after our marriage, my husband was very abusive always beats me and sends me out of the house it was obvious my marriage wasn\'t fun. My husband was a politician and misbehaved a lot especially cheating. It wasn\'t hidden in fact that\'s what they do(his friends). Really it was one hell of a marriage even my family were no longer happy. Though it wasn\'t sweet when we were dating too but when I finally decided to move on I noticed I was already pregnant and he wanted me to keep it that we should get married that he was ready to settle down and he\'s changed. At that point I truly saw a lot of changes in him but after the marriage he got worse than before like now he had me in his trap and could do anything. I then noticed he married me to gain some political grounds. To make the story short we separated 2yrs after and he immediately brought in another woman(older than me) to our home. He abandoned even our daughter even when he knew I had nothing I had just rounded up with school. I had to struggle alone to take care of her, it really wasn\'t easy for me. Just weeks after our separation I heard the lady is pregnant for him and they are making plans to get married and his family accepted her without even a question because she\'s doing well with a car and good job she had money to buy their Favour with gifts. He filed for a divorce before I knew it because she wanted him to marry her before she delivers the baby. I pleaded with him even is family, that no matter what I don\'t want to loose my home but it didn\'t work. I was frustrated at first because it came as a shocker. Finally I moved on though I still use to contact him from time to time because I really loved him. But at a point I decided I need to finally move on so I told him I was ready for the divorce because I told him earlier that I won\'t partake in the divorce that he should go ahead and do his wish. I went for my service and my daughter was with my mom and I started living happily too. There was a time he even came to take my daughter by force after abandoning her, and even attacked, insulted and injured my mom in the process because he\'s a politician he always feels no one can do anything. Later he left that lady too after she had also given birth to a girl and he got someone else a younger person and was planning to marry her too so It was public everyone knew. Now after my service 2yrs after our separation he came back and I accepted him again(because I didn\'t want to have children elsewhere and create a polygamous home I seriously don\'t like that) though my family wasn\'t happy at first but have tried and calm them. when I came back I noticed he was broke that\'s why he came back. But I stayed and managed till now and we have another baby girl again she\'s almost a year. My problem is I don\'t really love him like before again am just pretending to be happy because I always think of everything he has done to us(it\'s just too many I can\'t say them all here) all the ill and untrue things he said about me just to justify he dids. I only stayed because I want to have my kids with only him. Please I need advice. Thank You. And again my 2nd issue is the baby mama, at first when I was separated with my husband I was happy for him and I even told my daughter she has a sister but When we reconciled and I saw a message on the phone he was using before I saw that the baby mama was the one who had done all the issues herself just so they could get married(he didn\'t even know the lawyer she was doing everything but with his consent). After I saw that I was angry and I called her to please leave my family alone that I have seen all the text messages(that was my first time communicating her, I don\'t usually do that but I was very angry that day that a woman could do this to her fellow not imagining if I were her younger sister). At first I had told him I didn\'t want to hear anything about that child again that after all he abandoned my daughter too when was with her so it\'s time for karma and that I can\'t be happy with her knowing she was the one that filed that divorce in his name. He pleaded with me and even my mom asked me to accept the child. Now I finally agreed and accepted the child the day I saw them I even played with the child and and introduced her to my first daughter. But my problem now is few weeks ago my husband came home and told me he saw his baby mama and she was saying she\'s gone to drop the baby(2yrs) with her aunt in their village that things aren\'t really good for now. So I told him I don\'t like that, that I will call her wish I did and after we talked for a long while she said it\'s not village that the place is okay and that she won\'t stay there forever she take her back when she\'s stable I suggested her coming to stay with us but she didn\'t agree. Then said even my husband asked her to bring her during the Christmas and refused that he abandoned the girl and doesn\'t show concern I told her she know he doesn\'t have again for now that\'s why but she was insisting it\'s not all about that when she was with him she begged him not to abandon his daughter that she didn\'t support him when he did that... etc. so I told her I will talk to him about that that she will see difference. We talked well in good manner but to my surprise when my husband came back that day and I told him I called her he was saying she called him and was angry with him that he\'s discussing her matter with me and all that and I noticed she had blocked me on WhatsApp after then too. But I am wondering why she did all that when we talked like 2 friends and she sounds well with me. Now after then I talked to my husband about she complaining him abandoning the child. Now ever since then they\'re communicating so frequently he will come back sometimes and tell me the child is sick, she will call him and ask him to check his message when he does he will just say school payments but later when I check he had deleted the message, and now am noticing after they communicate he deletes it because he\'s feeling am beginning to suspect... the other day I connected his wifi to my phone to help him do something and his WhatsApp messages dropped and I saw she was trying to call him on WhatsApp around 1am midnight.. I told him he said maybe it\'s mistake but if it\'s mistake I wonder what she will be checking in his page by that time and that night he didn\'t sleep at home though he told me but am beginning to think something is fishy among them I am just worried because I don\'t want to be taken unaware again before I will know it she will be pregnant for the 2nd child because I kept quiet and accepted the first. Did I do wrong by accepting the child? Please I need advice on what to do because I don\'t know what to think anymore. Am regretting coming back because I don\'t want all this baby mama baggage. And I don\'t understand him again these days he barely have time for the family though he\'s saying it\'s the nature of this his new business lines he\'s starting. But I know there\'s more to it. Advice please. Thank You.