Good day house, Please I need your advice. 3 years ago I had an arranged marriage. It was not due to pressure from family or anything but it was my choice. I met several girls and when I saw her I knew she was the one. We both immediately liked each other and we were perfectly compatible. She is educated and has a very good job. Before agreeing to getting married we met and talked several times. We discussed everything, what kind of lifestyle we both expect and what kind of future we had in mind. I am someone who was extremely clear with my goals. I want to retire by 40 and live rest of my life comfortably with my wife in some foreign location. For this I am working like crazy right now. One thing I don't see in my life is kids. I know the plans I have in mind will never be possible if we have kids. We had discussed this in detail and she agreed and saw herself fitting properly in my vision. I didn't force her or try to influence her in any way. After our marriage we were extremely happy. We both worked during the week like crazy and enjoyed on weekends. We went on short holidays. Sometimes if I required to travel for my work I would take her if she could get a leave. Everything was okay. However, if you live in society your thoughts will surely be influenced by it. That's what happened to her. Our friends and co-workers started getting pregnant and having kids. This changed her thinking. One night when we were out, she completely surprised me by saying lets have kids. I was shocked. I knew it wasn't a joke. We had a long discussion about it. I tried to tell her that our life is perfect and we are well in line with our plan. She told me that we have had our fun and its now time to share it with a new person. Every other day this topic would come up and we would fight and argue over the same thing again and again. I told her several times that I clearly mentioned before marriage that I dont want kids but she said that its not like there was a written contract or anything. The problem I cant get anyone to take my side on this. If I consult my parents they say obviously you should have kids. If I consult our friends they say you should have kids. She and my mother are very close. Like other mothers my mom too wants that I should have kids. So she is fully supporting this idea. Its becoming extremely difficult for me. We had a perfect life. Exactly the kind of life I had in mind. No issues, no family tensions, no financial burdens. In these 3 years I had no problems with my wife, other than small husband-wife issues. I cant figure out how to deal with this problem. If I give in and we plan a baby then my whole dreams will be washed away in a second.