Good day everyone, thanks to the admin for a job well done. I salute una oo, mothers in the house, thank you for creating this platform, I am here to share my story, because I cannot take it or hold it anymore, but because I know I have a family who will always be there for me both in thin and thick times (Mamalette), I met a guy at my final year in the varsity, along the line I got pregnant,but despite the fact I wasn't ready for a commitment,He told me to keep it, and we get married,saying he loves me ,(as he claims oo)so I decided to carry along as well cus I also have feelings as well,we fixed a date for the introduction ,and we later got married as well,doing this period I had a friend in school who came to say hi because of my early stage symptoms of pregnancy,she couldn't leave for that day she had to spend a night,My husband woke up by midnight to go meet her telling her to come dey should make love,which he thought I was actually sleeping,but I was seeing all what he was doing,my friend was asking him why he was doing dat ,and saying she wasn't interested,she can't do that to me,I was so hurt,I couldn't hold it,I cried all day,if not for this pregnancy,I just would have let go,He apologized by postrating in front of me holding my feet,to let go,Every since dat day,my life have bin so boring,I decided never to invite friends ,He apologise and told me such stuff will never happen again,I noticed I became the laughing stock of everyone in my vicinity, husband has slept with almost all ladies on street and church,I wasn't that free anymore,I fought some and I decides to let go of some,doing this process he lost his job,Did I tell you I already had a son,Who couldn't care for the son no more,so my mom decided to take him,this person I got married to is a chronic cheat,three years after,I gave birth to another gurl,along the line I got a shop,u decided to keep my self busy and help the family, Did I tell you that ,his the type dat do passworded his phone,when he goes to the toilet,He takes his phone,He sleeps on the phone even that alone irritate me,and it makes me feel so unsecured with him,that alone give me doubt that there is something his keeping even if I don't have intention of going through is phones,but the way he does?This man never respect the marriage for anything,at times his phones rings around 2a.m one 1a.m by different gurls,have picked some and I decided to let go of some,at times when I talk to some,They tell me he said he was never married and some said he no longer have a wife but a baby mama,that the wife was a complete harlot,he left the son and ran away He never uses his children pictures before,even birthday,He has never,He went to the extent of deleting all wedding picture on facebook,When I accused him,he denies,saying he doesn't know anything about them,Why would he do such,And each time his caught he promised never to do such again,now am tired of apologies,apologies without a changes,he has a friend which they are both in this together as well, Now I got a fake lawyer who said she was from woman site that I complained about domestic violence (He has never raised his hand on me before)we just decided to use that,that he doesn't care for the children bla bla bla,so at first when the woman called my husband telling hi. I wanted a divorce,my husband told he will get back on the next 30 minute,that it's a small thing we can settle it ,He called all family members reporting me,he doesn't pick the woman's call and at times pretend as if his not hearing her,I later called him the files are with me at home,that he should please come and sign them,could u believe he hasn't come home since the last night I told him that, he keep saying he can't sign it,we should settle it,please I need advice on what to do next,And I don't want him to know am faking this,I just want to threaten him with that,And to know if he truly still want the marriage,less I forgot,He works now,And his very ok