Dear Mamalettes, I don't know if I did the wrong thing. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 5 months. He's in his late 30's and I was just 30. When we met, I thought I would grow to love him as the saying goes "do not despise little beginnings". I am a single mom and the memory of the suffering I went through in the hands of my baby daddy is still fresh though, my son is 8 yrs now. I still remember how I suffered in his hands, he had almost nothing then so, he couldn't take care of me and the baby. I dropped out of sch because of him, my parents abandoned me because I was pregnant, I was doing well before the pregnancy but because my baby daddy didn't care about me and d pregnancy then, I had to start begging people on the street for food in order to survive. To cut the story short, the suffering was so much that when I gave birth to my son, I became so lean that I looked like a AIDS patient because I didn\'t receive any care. Later on, I met a man that helped me get back on my feet. That period, myself and baby daddy had parted ways. I went back to sch and got my life back. To God be the glory, I graduated and got a job immediately after NYSC. But since my previous experience, ive been so scared to date a \"broke\" guy because of what I went tru before and how I turned to a street begger in order to survive. Now, back to my present story, the guy ive been dating for 5mnths now is very broke. Initially, I thought I could cope. but right now, I can\'t. I\'ve been the feeding him, taking care of his basic needs, etc. To make matters worse, he\'s not up to the standard of the kind of man I like to settle down with. He\'s very short and to make matters worse, he has a terrible body odour. I tried to help him out of it but his personal hygiene is zero. he doesn\'t use sponge to bathe, he can wear one singlet for 2weeks, the armpit would be brown and smelling so bad. I\'ve spoken to him several times about this but he would argue that he doesn\'t have any odour and the undies are not dirty. If he bathes in my house, the whole bathroom wall tiles would be left with black stains, d whole room will be smelling of body odour that I would need to spray air freshener when he leaves. I\'m not always comfortable sitting close to him and he always want to be all over me. Everytime I asked him to provide money to cook, he would tell me that he didn\'t have money, yet, if I cook with my money, he will eat the most part of it. He would come to my house and demand for things that he can\'t afford to give me. He\'s also a very jealous man. I can\'t talk to any man, even my male neighbours, he would accuse me of sleeping with them. I can\'t talk to my brothers on the fone, he will get jealous. I can\'t introduce him to my friends and family because of his physical appearance. In fact, I\'m not always comfortable around him but he loves me. I thought I would grow to love him with time. I\'ve treid so much but I couldn\'t. most times, my views on issues always contradict his. We quarrel more than we play. so recently, I sat him down, made him see reasons that we are not compatible and we both need to move on. I told him a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage and I dnt want to get married and be unhappy for the rest of my life. It didn\'t go down well with him. Now he\'s seeing me as a bad person and I really pity him. I felt like I did something very bad for calling it a quit but I can\'t continue to deceive him that I love him. I just had to let him go. Please Mamalettes, did I do anything bad in quitting the relationship? Please, kindly advise me on what to do because his role in this relationship gives me a red flag and keeps reminding me of how I suffered in the hands of a broke guy in the past and I don\'t want to suffer in the future with kids. I feel I should rather remain single rather than marrying someone that can\'t cater for his family and someone I don\'t love.

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