Thank to you all for the comment. I was the lady that posted that we only have sex when hubby wants it. I will only shed more light to the matter. When we newly got married he used come home fortnightly cos his workplace was very far from the house. Then we didn't have any issues cos he will always initiate and I was used to it. Fast forward to 2 years later we had to move to a smaller apartment but very close to his workplace. He works with the govt with a manageable pay hence he established a business that requires his attention seriously. He works everyday even on Sundays so we virtually have no time to spend together. The earliest time he gets home is 8:30, most times Its 9:30pm. The only thing he does is eat, shower and sleep. Almost everyday he is already sleeping even if I try to talk to him a bit. He is a very deep sleeper, so it is obvious he is not pretending. He just isn't conscious of my presence most times. The times he makes advances it's not always from his sleep, it's when he wakes up and eases himself. The truth is one touch alone I know what he wants and I will yield because I am a very light sleeper on the other hand. Y do I have to wake him up when it is my turn. The only time he responds a bit is when I touch genitals every other part he will just change sleeping posture. Even the genitals if I touch am na hug I go chop or if will just mutter some few lines from his sleep and sleeps off again . Few days ago, he even hit my hand and removed it as I was touching the thing, I just left him and started pitying myself. If I jump on on the thing na hug I go chop. How can I rape him when the thing isn't erect. We hardly spend time together. I wear those sexy clothes but it has to be after pikin don sleep or will I weae it in front of my daughter and my oga will just say u look beautiful and after 2 other sentences him don sleep. On the blow job matter, I have not really tried b4 because I don't know how safe it health wise and also if it right religiously wise too. I am a Muslim. Abt the time we spend together I complained so they all I hear I try to be understanding, u know our situation for now. I don fight am, even beg am, cuddle am but after he has slept like log of wood there and I tell him what he did when I touched him the next morning he will just be begging me that he must have been very tired. It appears to me that times he initiates sef it's just to fulfill all righteousness . It's not easy to be married abeg. The thing is he is very tired everyday but despite that makes moves on his part but form log of wood when it's my turn. The fact that I don't have a permanent job makes it easy to put it on my mind. If I were working na for both of us to dey form log of wood. One very important part I dey find permanent job o incase u have job for me pls I will do. Just let me know I will PM u. I studied engineering, in fact I just finished my masters with a very good grade. Those that already think I am shy as such. I used to be when we newly got married but not anymore. The conclusion is that my hubby carry work for head, though I understand him cos na from there  sustenance dey come. But the matter still get as e be