Hello house, please I need advice on this. So approximately 1 year ago I left my wife due to irreconcilable differences, I have three girls 17,13,&12 with her that come and see me twice a week and spend the night. 5 months ago, I was the MC for a Wedding in Lekki, and a Bridesmaid hit on me. Well we both connected really fast and I found out that it was her sister's wedding. While talking to her, I got to know that she has also been married but is now separated from her husband, and has been for 4 years now, but He works on a oil rig , and comes home once a month for 3 or 4 days to see the kids (she has 2). Her husband is a control freak that cheats on her and manipulates her. The kids do not know they are separate because anytime he is around, he stays in their house and his wife is too scared to leave him, also her kids do not know about me. My kids know about her, but have not met her yet. So any ways it's been really hard to see each other because the only time we can get together is maybe at lunch time. So shortly I will be moving to a new house, and we have talked about her coming to live with me. I love her and she assures me that she really loves me , and she wants to move in with me. Big problem I am facing right now is that her Separated husband is in town for 2 months this time, and is living with her right now. I am getting frustrated with trying to convince myself that she is really going to leave him for me. Last week I told her to just pack her bags and come and stay with me, but her answer was she is scared, because of the kids. So my question is when it's time for me to get my new house which is in 1 month and 19 days from now, is she just going to come live with me, what will she tell the kids then . So I am really stuck here on what to do. Do I give her time to make up her mind, or do I give her a date, and if she does not come then we are done . Please help me out with this one .