Please I need advice how to go on this because I am so confused. In 2009 a girl was pregnant for me but during the pregnancy I never knew she was pregnant and she never told me because we broke up from the relationship, so I never use my eyes to see her during the pregnancy but after the child was born I was at work one day when she came with the baby and her pastor but refused because I don't know anything concerning the pregnancy. So they suggested for DNA test which we went for but it turned out to be that the child was mine, I wept seriously so I demanded to see the birth certificate of the child but it happens to that none of my name was there rather the girl put the name of the white man she got married to n stayed together because we stay abroad. so I have to start supporting them with the upkeep of the child but d girl was not taking care of d child very well dat d government of dat country wants to take d child from her so she now have to move d child to Nigeria, so I left d country to start a new life y because of d problem I have to lose my job.so when I got to another country I started living a frustrated life I drinks, smoke , clubs, going out with different women all are white women I swear never to do anything with black women because of d pains I passed through. But one day in my house I cried because am not getting younger I need to marry but I can't marry all those white women, so I promise God dat if he should give me a wife dat I will love her till death n with faith I sow a seed,so I have to quit any relationship I had as God may have it I met a nigerian girl we just dated for 3 months I go married to her traditionally n wedding, but the problem here is dat when I was dating her she told me dat she can't marry a man dat has given birth before because she doesn't want problem from any body, again she told me dat a man did her introduction in d pass but when she finds out d man has a child before she left d man n i have to find out about what she said and it was true, so in my own case I didn't tell her because I don't want to lose her because ever since I know her she really changed many things in my life n she brought luck to me, I love her so so much dat I can't hurt her or see tears in her eyes so I decided to keep calm concerning the child, so when my wife was 4 pregnant she now find out by herself become she is dis praying type she saw every thing by herself n she ask me I was scared to answer her dat day but one thing was telling me that if I don't say d truth dat day dat I might just die so I have to tell her everything since dat day my mind have not for given me for not letting her know on time. She told me that after giving birth she will live myself life . Please I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her she's a very good woman