Is it a crime to be naturally slim? Good day mamas and papas please help me cos am beginning to run out of my mind. I am a married woman with a beautiful two year old daughter. I have been married for almost 5 years now. Before I met my husband and because of my natural slimness I was a model. I went high in my modeling career in Nigeria, appeared in numerous shows and magazines but due to true love and my husband then boyfriend showing some signs of jealousy with my career I decided to retire. He didn't force me to do it, it was a decision I made I chose him over my modeling and I resigned. Now 5 years down the line I have a baby but I have remained the same weight and stature wise. And it's becoming a problem. As a model I never exercised for one day! There was no need because no matter what I ate as i eat a lot I never got fat. My friends would be there starving themselves eating salads eating fish without the skin, drinking lemon water and I will have a bottle of coke in my hand which I will gulp right before I hit the runway. Thats to tell you all how naturally slim I was. I remember vividly how My husband then boyfriend was always calling girls fat and how he hated fat women and how some of his friends girlfriends were already fat and he was glad that he has a slim woman as a girlfriend then he will say that he knows that I will be fat after child birth but I should watch it and not be so fat and once i replied him that he may be shocked to find out that I will have a baby and still remain the same cos am from a naturally slim family and he laughed and said it's not possible. Now that's what it is now and he is complaining.... the fat he hated some years ago is now what he automatically loves now. I don't drink water and drop cup again in my house without hearing the words with a pitiable stare that I should get fat. I am too slim meanwhile I swear with my life that I am the same way he met me! The same Way! I don't intend to make this post long but am pained so please bear with me. I look like I am not married how much more to have had a baby. When ever I see my old model friends they are amazed on how slim I have remained and they start ask me what I do to remain the same way and in turn I reminded them if I ever exercised during our modeling days or watched what I ate? then they will accept and start telling me how lucky I am with my structure. And pray to be like me after they have had their own babies I guess that luck is only being seen by outsiders and not by my husband. I go out with my husband and baby he's uncomfortable with how people are staring at me like "is this this man's wife? Or is this is girls mother?" And when we get home or even right there in public he will be telling me how I need to get fat. It was so embarrassing one day in the hospital I went with my daughter and my mum. (May God rest her soul) I was with her and holding my baby and a lady walked up to us to admire my baby and she said " awww fine girl, pretty girl so beautiful" (bending down to touch my baby) then she stood up and looked at me, then turned to my mother and asked her 'where is her mother?' The whole nurses started laughing she didn't understand why and they pointed at me saying that's the mother right there and she apologized I smiled but in my heart I didn't find it funny. To others it may be a huge compliment but to me it wasn't knowing how my husband has been on my neck to get fat and add some flesh. He does it so bad that even after we finish making love during the cuddling process he will tell me he would love me more if only he has some flesh to hold. Am typing this in tears cos am so angry! I have done everything I can to get fat he even went as far as buying me 'wate on' a drug that helps people in getting fat still nothing I stopped taking it when it when nothing happened and the drug is expensive to buy. Now the last thing he said this morning that made me start writing to you here is that he doesn't know if I can carry another child because of how slim I was. Just because i have been on his neck that I want another baby as our daughter is almost three years old and he has always said he's not ready yet. And because I said it again tolday after he said I should get fat and i told him he should get me pregnant again and i may be fat then he said he doesn't think I can even carry another child with the way I look imagine! I got angry and yelled at him to stop trying to damage my self esteem, I carried a child didn't I and I told him I have been the same way I was since he met me and he should be grateful because tons of people are praying to have a wife who is the same way they met her 5 years after marriage but rather he is only trying to make me feel less than human. Am very angry presently and i don't feel I have said enough I want to punish him more! Enough with the self damaging am beginning to think he's jealous and feels maybe if am fat i won't be as pretty as I am that get people staring at me each time we go out. I don't know what to think. my sisters who are slim like me are late so he never met them but our first sister had 4 kids and she still remained ever slim till she passed on. Her kids are her replica 6 feet and slim. I am very tall (6 feet) and slim and if I walk right back to any agency that I want to continue modeling they will accept me right back. But I don't! that phase of my life has passed on I don't even do anything that is making me slim, I eat well I don't lack anything he provides for me to the best of his ability. I am even a stay at home mom, I work from home and i have a cleaner who comes to clean my house. All I do is cook and care for my daughter and him so it's not like I am under any stress that I will say is making me lose weight. This is natural he has refused to accept it and he is driving me mad. Am tempted to send in my pictures so you all see and judge for myself but for fear of people who may know me and him I won't but I will send my late mothers pictures after she had our first sister so you see how she looks. I look just like that presently maybe one or two kg short. Please mamas if there's anything I can do to reverse this natural slimness help me because I don't want to give him room to go to start cheating and next thing he will tell everyone that I am too slim and that's why he's cheating because I don't understand this anymore. The only time I was 65kg was when I was pregnant the moment I gave birth I went right back to my 56kg without any effort and that's what I am till now. Am 31 years old please help thanks