Dear Mamalettes, I greet you all. I have few things to point at. Things that many women in and out of this forum seem to be complaining about! From wife battering, to cheating hubby, to MIL's mingling, to lazy hubby, to hubby's dirtiness and what have you, there's just one significant help we, mothers, can contribute to ensure there are better men for our daughters. That is IMPROVED TRAINING OF OUR MALE CHILDREN... it's important to note the following... 1. If you are already in an abusive marriage and you have children, separate from such spouse for your safety and to ensure your kids don't view such terrible scene... Remember that what they see don't get erased so easily. 2. Avoid being too attached to your sons because that's how attached MILs started... Let them breathe for Christ's sake. If you get too attached to your sons, detaching becomes a problem when he becomes someone's hubby and you start frustrating a small girl in her hubby's house... 3. There's no chore specially made for girls.. All hands on deck. From washing plates, to clothes, to mopping, to going to market ,to cooking!!! This will help them assist their wives in the future... Men should know how to cook, they won't die.. 4. Teach them to care for their sisters.. For example when she's sick (dysmenorrhea) encourage him to go buy sanitary towel for her(its not a sin), he should be able to prepare water for her to bath... If she travels encourage him to follow her up through SMS and calls throughout her journey... If she's preparing for exams and he's not he can assist her in washing her clothes, prepare meals for her.... He should learn to compliment his sisters( you look good today and bla,bla. bla) .. He should learn to buy her birthday gifts... (same to the girls too) 5. Make sure your boys aren't comfortable with dirts.. Personal hygiene can't be overemphasized... At least if he meets a dirty girl for a wife, the entire household won't be a pig's house... One has to bail the other... 6. Teach them to be patient with ladies in general... 7. Allow these boys take turns in family devotions regardless of your religion. You're preparing them to lead their homes... 8. There are some habits that are built-in like anger, you can read on anger management and help them and still pray for revival... Again, we all know that there are some people who don't know how to talk in a good manner, please don't ignore all the corrections people give u about your child. Just smile, say thank you then go home digest it, if it makes sense put it to action if other wise throw the advice via the window.... Please I'm not trying to tell you how to train your children but these ideas could help a bit... Sorry for the long post... I'm exhausted!!! Will come up with volume 2 soon....