Mamalette Support Team Staff asked 4 weeks ago
Greetings my fellow Mamalettes. Please I need sincere advice from you all. I am married with two kids. Before I got married to my hubby, I used to have a guy who is my best friend. We share everything together, both our joys and sorrows. When we met, it was few months after his wedding, and he didn't date the wife before they got married, he seniors me with 10 years. I was in school then, I attended one of the corrupt schools in the East but I am a humble person, I am an introvert, after lectures, I walk straight to my lodge, I refuse to live on campus. All these attracted him to me, we are just platonic friends no string attached. We discuss about our welfare and I do give him suggestions on how to handle some challenges in d office cos he works in Government house.... After wards after my graduation, I got married, I love my hubby so much, my best friend attended our trad, I was happy that I have found a new best friend so that my friend can concentrate on his wife.... After our wedding, I joined my hubby to Lagos. Though I still communicate with my friend, he always remains my mentor and correct me when am wrong. We are so close to d extend that each time he want to buy something for his wife as a surprise gift he will ask Me to suggest for him and he always buy it in two... One for Me and one for his wife. My friend is so romantic and he knows how to treat a woman. But my hubby is d opposite of him, my hubby hardly buy something for me, I started working by force to take care of me and my siblings that look up to me. Am doing my second degree now yet no support from hubby, they pay us once in three months where am working . My hubby flogs me with belt each time I beg him for money and he refused, if I take money from his wallet, as low as 1k, he must flog me with belt and still collect his money back. He's very stingy to d core. He can never take me out no matter how I beg him. But my friend used to take me out two times in a week when I was In school. Nothing much just to catch fun outside. Not in club or hotel but in fast food or joints cos I love outing. Am used to it when I was single, I begged my hubby to continue from where my friend stops even if Is once in a month but he blatantly refused. Meanwhile I have parted ways with my friend since 3yrs plus but he talk 24/7 .my hubby is aware cos I introduce him to my hubby during our wedding. Right now, I don't have any feelings for my hubby cos of d constant beatings I get from him, I have never cheated on him for once. People thought am happy but my pillow and my friend truly knows my condition. And he refused to change, I have reported him to his people yet he will turn d story upside down, none of them is close to us for confirmation. I have two kids for him. Few days ago, my friend and his team came to Lagos.i was very happy to hear that, I went to visit him at d hotel where they reside, I started shedding tears immediately I saw him, he saw all d marks I got from d wound as a result of beating. He felt for me. He really discussed so many issues and how to make our family a better place. When I was about to leave, I hugged him for long, and we kissed each other. I felt relieved for once, I was happy to be with my best friend again after three years I saw him last. He gave me 20k to manage cos he understands my plight. Ever since then I have been thinking of him, I have been having feelings for him but I have not told him. I asked myself, y did I meet this cool, calm, handsome, intelligent person two months after his wedding? He's a good man with a heart of gold. Some of you will say I should not judge d book from its cover but I know him in and out.... Dear mamalettes and pappallets please advice a confused mother. I have tried everything to make my hubby love me. I have take him out on different occasions so that he will continue from that yet no show.... Am tired of everything, I wanted to leave him but my friend keeps advising me that it will get better one day, three years and counting..... My question is, will it ever get better? Least I forget, I have prayed and prayed, and still praying. Am beautiful and neat... I always dress sexy, I cook good food.... I don't really know where d problem is....... Sorry for d long post
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