The Unusual Relationship I Have With my Mother-In-Law

Before I got married, I've heard different tales about what daughter-in-laws go through in the hands of their  mother-in-law's (MIL) and I have a close experience to one, my elder sister's MIL is the one from hell. She has done everything possible to frustrate my sister, there was nothing my sister does that pleases her, even if she licks her ass or feet, she would still find fault in it. My sister's marriage was miserable thanks to her MIL, she made me want to give up on the word 'marriage" if her marriage applies to all marriages.

When dating, the first time I met my future MIL, she was sweet and kind and I thought it might all be a hoax, they tend to treat you nicely on the first meeting, my sister had the same experience. I was using my sister as a yardstick, I feel she will change towards me when I eventually get married to her son. On several consequent visits, she was the same, she never changed. She would make sure I'm comfortable and that I don't have to be scared around her.  I still have it at the back of my mind not to get used to that quickly, so I prepared my mind there is likely to be new developments in the future.

After marriage, my MIL was still the same but I still think since the marriage was fresh, it would be too early for her to show me her true colors. But we've been married for 5 years now and to my utmost surprise,  my MIL didn't change! As a matter of fact, we now have a daughter and mother relationship. She didn't treat me like a wife, she treated me like she was the who gave birth to me. I always want her around and so is the children because her company is always fun. When she comes around, she comes with a lot of goodies for the kids and she buys me a lot of stuff too.

We attend almost all of her Owanbes together with her daughters and anyone would think she was the one who gave birth to all of us but they don't EVER believe me when I say she's my MIL because she will always introduce me as one of her children. I am one of the lucky one's with a good MIL and people are always quick to remind me of how lucky I am because it's always rare to come across a good one.

As a MIL, you would expect her to take side to her son whenever we have issues and she gets to know about it but instead, she would hear both sides of the story and give her judgement frankly irrespective of whom her judgement will affect and in most cases, my husband is always the victim that he now feels we've ganged up against him. He is always jealous and angry when he sees us together because he thinks we are cooking something up against him. (And truly, sometimes we plan coup against him)

Since my mom was late since I was a little girl, I've made my MIL my mom because she took me as one and I behave towards her the way I would have if she were to be my mom. I call her my mom because she really filled up the vacuum in my life. I always confuse people whenever I call her my mom and they will be the one to correct me that she is my MIL but I always stand my ground she is my MUM!

What else does one want in a mother that she has not done for me, she is a rare gem, may God continue to keep her for us.

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