Things You Need To Consider Before Divorcing Your Spouse

Editorial Team

At some point in a marriage, the couple may decide that divorce is the only option left to them, think about it deeply though, is there anything you can do for your marriage? If you have finally decided, take a look at this and decide if this is the best thing because once the marital ties is severed, there's no going back.

So before you divorce your spouse, here are some things, as moms and potential single moms, that you should consider;

1. Your finances

Think about your means of income, is it stable? And are you in debt? At the end of the divorce, you might be left with little even after the properties have been shared(that's if there's something to share). Divorce is hard on the pocket for the man and even the husband, talk to a lawyer to help you determine what you are entitled to from your spouse (Including child support) or how much your spouse is entitled to from you as this sometimes happen.

If your finance is not in order and you know you can't gain much from your spouse because he doesn't even have anything, get your finance in place before you divorce. If you're not working yet, get yourself established first, it's best to be able to rely on yourself and take care of your children.

2. Your child care resources

After the divorce, would you have someone to help you with the kids or will you will have to take care of them all on your own?Start thinking about nanny, baby-sitter or house help explain to your partner that you're simply looking for steady help with the kids. Calculate how much it will cost.

3. Your living situation

If your husband has a house(s) your lawyer will be the best person to tell you what will happen to the house. If you have to move out, start asking around for the cost of a comfortable house you can move into.

4. Custody

Most times, in divorce, dads only get to see their kids once in a while but that's not always the case, these days many parents are doing 50/50 splits and get to see their children more often. Prepare yourself for what it will be like to share your kids, it will be hard to leave your child(ren) to go see their dad for months or weeks, but you'd get used to it.

5. Your children's reaction

It will be rough on your kids, think about how it will affect your kids, the potential setbacks they could have and ways you can help them scale through this rough touch time.

6. Dating

If you intend dating sometime soon after the divorce, let me warn you that it's not easy to find that "one." Dating after you already have kids is not moi moi and you'll try some before you finally find the man for you. Don't make the mistake of getting out of a marriage and jumping into another one hoping it will be successful. If you divorce, wait patiently for love.

After considering all this, do you still plan to go through with the divorce. If you are having second thoughts, do an evaluation of your marriage, what are the issues you have, list them. Are there potentials? List those too. What are your own faults 'cause yes, you have a part in it all, try to improve, if you need a marriage counselor, get one.