Managing Your Anger As A Parent -

It's very common for parents to be annoyed at their kids 'cause truth be told those kids can be very frustrating but you have to take care so you don't say some negative words that might have effect on their life. Your anger can have negative effects on your kids which is why it's important that you learn how to deal with your anger so you don't say or do something that you'll regret.

But firstly ensure that

You are getting enough sleep as sleep deprivation can affect your mood, if you feel tired after doing all the chores, sleep to become energized and less prone to anger
Work on issues bothering on personal stress (financial, marital, emotional....) that may make you unhappy and affect your mood
Hunger (an hungry woman is an angry woman) if you're hungry, it may leave you in a bad mood.

Ensuring that none of the above issues are the problem before handling your kids will make things easier, in that, you'll be less prone to get angry at every little thing they do. These things matter a lot in dealing with your child 'cause when you're going through your personal issues it will be very hard to deal fairly or reason with your child.

Here are ways to manage your anger as a parent;

1. Give yourself a break

being around the kids all the time can take it's toll on you, go out and do something fun even during the day, you can go to a spa, get a massage or do something nice for yourself. if you need help, get one. Moms who don't spend too much time around their kids rarely have bouts of anger.

2. Listen to yourself

Whatever you say to your child sinks into them, when yelling at your child in anger, notice what you are saying "is it appropriate to the ears of a child?" "Will it impact them negatively?" ask yourself these questions. Whatever you are saying to them should be something you wouldn't mind them repeating later, if it is, stop saying it.

3. Have a plan

What does your child do that triggers your anger? Write out what those are and chalk out what your escape plan will be if you are provoked again. Next time it happens, you'll be ready.

4. Practice staying calm

When you are angry, make a conscious effort to stay calm, take in a long breath then breath out. You can even start counting 1,2,3.....

5. Sing instead of yelling

When you feel like yelling some brain into the child, burst into your favourite song and start singing it. It may be weird at the start but with time it will help by erasing all traces of bitterness and help you relax

6. Apologise

If out of anger you said something really harsh to your child, did something wrong or beat them the right thing to do is to say "sorry". It will tell your child that yes, I did this out of anger but I'm sorry. You'll make them feel better about themselves and teach them to be accountable.