The period when a woman is trying to conceive is one of the most difficult times in her life.
With so much pressure from family and friends who fear that their daughter, sister, niece or friend is getting old, it can be hard for any woman to be happy.
And that is why women who are TTC (Trying to conceive) need all the encouragement and advice they can get. It was for this reason that we asked our Mamalettes this question
"What advice do you have for mothers trying to conceive? What advice is most critical for them to remember?"
Our usually helpful Mamalettes were happy to give their advice and these are some of their responses
Some Mamalettes adviced that they should live life to the fullest.....
"My advice from personal experience is do not, I repeat do not put your life on pause! Do not fold your hands and think when you have kids you will then start that business, or that trade, or make that trip or all other stuff. If you need to further your education, go do it. If you need to learn a skill, go do it.
You will never have as much time as you have now that you are waiting. Children are a blessing and they require so much more attention that sometimes it looks humanly impossible to give consistently.
Make the most of your waiting time...I always say that when God says be fruitful, It's not only by having kids that you are fruitful which is why we call kids fruit of the womb. There is fruit of the brain, fruit of the hands and so many other fruits! Be faithful with little seeds in other areas so it can be fruitful.
It's now you can successfully fail and learn and fail and grow in that business etc without pressure of if you fail your kids may die of hunger. "
Chi Nomso
"The fact that you are yet to conceive doesn't make you less of a woman. Don't feel inferior among your fellow women who have children because your own children are coming too. Always rejoice with your friends who give birth and buy their babies gifts ...no matter how little. It's a seed you are sowing."
Biebele Françoise Ajijola
These Mamalettes adviced that they should let go of worries.....
"Be more relaxed. It is not easy though, not easy at all especially when you have a spouse who ain't encouraging but they should find time to worry less and let God do what he knows how to do best. When you have done the necessary tests and everything is ok.. Please relax yourself very well and do not allow anything or anyone pressure you into doing the wrong thing. You cannot conceive in a worrisome environment. Get your mind and hands very busy and trust in God and in due time, you too will celebrated."
San Dee
"Whose report will you believe? Report of God of course that says" your children will surround your table!
Less worries & more praise!"
Doris Luchi Reginald Ogbonnaya
Some Mamalettes highlighted the steps which TTC mothers should take......
"Those married as virgin and trying to conceive should check if they are ovulating, check their hubby's sperm count. Should check their hormone if they are having hormonal imbalance. Should also eat healthy meals and then continue praying. They should also press their nipple and check if breast milk is coming out because most times it prevents one from getting pregnant and lastly while they are playing they should also re-evaluate their past and fix the fixable and apologise where necessary because I have heard many stories even personal experience but since many people I know are on this page I can't share it."
Ijebaby Okorie
1. Table your matters before God and show love to little children.
2. Seek medical help( both couple).
3. Avoid unnecessary anxiety esp wen menses isn't forth coming or when they meet spouses and expect to be pregnant immediately (I know it's not easy but please try).
4. Whenever you see a pregnant woman, use her as a point of contact for yourself (say to God that you desire this).
5. To dose who are overweight, try and get your weight under control.
6. Make yourself happy and don't think too much no matter what you face from your in-laws.
7. Stay healthy, eat healthy and live healthy.
8. Do not rely on the days you OVULATE alone before you make love to your spouse. Love making should be regular.
9. Medical check ups should not be done by the woman alone, the men too should get checked (even when they have had children in the past because secondary infertility can occur at any time).
10. Daily intake of one folic acid too is good esp for dose who have had some miscarriages.
May God almighty grant all TTC persons their heart desires before the end of this year.Amen."
Bolaji Akinyomi Idowu Orisabinone
Exercise your faith, some Mamalettes adviced ......
"First of all you need to have the mind set that children come from God. No matter what the doctors tell you is your issue always belief and trust what God says about fruitfulness. Never put your trust in the drugs you're taking, while you take them always remember that children comes from God and not from any form of medication. No matter how hard it seems keep thanking God for your unborn children, if you can't see yourself pregnant then it won't manifest. Never get angry when you see your menses, when it comes say thank you lord, that's a sign that I can give birth to a child. Finally pray for those trying to conceive, serve God and try getting this books supernatural child birth and praying through your pregnancy. You shall be called mothers of nations soonest."
Benedicta Odigonma
"Just remove your mind from worry and just start buying your baby things and before you know it your faith will come to reality...twins and triplets you shall carry to all ttc women here... Double portion shall be yours all the days of your lives."
Thakma Zira
Rid yourself of infection and be kind a Mamalette advised.....
"Remove every trace of infection in your body, take time out to visit the motherless children, practise the act of praying for other women without children. And you will be amazed what will take place in your life."
Mimi Inomwan
From what Mamalettes have said, anxiety and stress is the very last thing a TTC woman should indulge in. Rather take some medical and physical steps as adviced and look up to God who is the giver of all good things. Resist the temptation to go out of your faith in search of babies.
You can continue to read the rest of the advice and responses from Mamalettes here.
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