My friend once said to me one day “when strangers or some friends ask you “how are you?” it’s not because they care, they just want to know if you are doing better than they are.”
This is exactly the case for people who say some things as if they really are concerned about your kids. So when they say “How come your child looks so thin! Have you not been feeding her well? It’s not necessarily because they care. I’m sure some Mamalettes would have gotten such comments from people who have no business asking such questions.
I’m sure some Mamalettes would have gotten such comments from people who have no business asking such questions.
“You’re 4 and you still can’t write your name? What has your teachers been teaching you?” If her own child can’t write her name yet, she’ll probably not ask that question and be so surprised.
I really have tried and I still can’t understand why people think they can pass comments on the progress of my young child when it really isn’t their business.
I’m past that stage now that my kids are grown up, but my friend who is a pregnant mother to another 2 years old boy, gets a lot of these comments.
“How long gone are you?” Someone asked her the day we went to the market together, and to that she replied “7 months”, “7 months! And your bump is this small? Are you sure baby is growing well?” She replied. At this, my friend was so surprised and worried, she couldn’t answer. I quickly drew her away from the negative woman.
This is a woman that should be enjoying being pregnant, but she has to be fending off questions from “well-meaning” people. Seriously!
One day, she asked me when my son started walking and I replied, “2 years”. Then she began to sob, someone had asked her if something was wrong with her son who is 2 years plus and still not walking yet. I had a hard time explaining to her that you can’t compare children’s development.
I wonder why people don’t see anything wrong in passing comments about pregnant women or their children, do they not understand that some topics are off-limits and talking about them is pouring salt into a fresh wound?
I think it’s lack of manners on their part although some people suggest they are truly concerned, whatever their reason is, nothing justifies their lack of regard for a fellow woman.
Their insensitivity might actually make the mother worry that something might really be wrong with her child or foetus.
It’s just not right, and we should stop it.
Mamalettes! Why do you think people criticize your child’s progress? And what comments have people passed about your child’s development?
