I  haven't spoken to my mother for 5 years now because she told me that not aborting me was the biggest mistake of her life. My mother was forced to marry my dad because she got pregnant with me, I think at the time she was just having fun and never imagined that she will be pregnant or be forced to marry my father. My parents never had a happy marriage and it is something I lived with growing up. Their fighting, shouting at each other. I was so happy when I eventually left for secondary school. Deep down I knew that my mother would have never married my father if she was not pregnant with me. I could see it myself. When I finally told her I was getting married, she wasnt happy with my choice of hubby because she said he wasnt my tribe. I could see that she wanted to have her way in planning the wedding but I did not let her. I told her that she had lived her life and she should let me live mine. That was when she got angry and started saying that she regrets not aborting me and it was the greatest mistake of her life. She told me "if you weren't born I would have gone places and had a good career". I was really upset at the time and just let peace reign till after the wedding. I had not even told her that hubby and I were leaving the country. 6 months after the wedding we left I did not even tell her I was going until I got there. I called her once told her I was out of the country and since then I have not heard from her because I no longer wanted anything to do with her. She has sent messages through family members apologizing and begging me to call her but I have refused. Of recent my aunties have been calling my hubby saying I need to make peace with her and that I'm allowing something trivial to tear our family apart and I should forgive her. She has also not seen her grandchildren and I know this is what pains her the most. Now the issue is that I'm still angry because of what she said.  What do I do?

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