Anonymous asked 1 month ago
I write with pains down my heart. I know nothing to do at the moment, so helpless because am yet to get a job to give her a better life.
From my tender age to till this moment, I mean 28yrs now my mum has suffered from the hands of my dad. No love, not even a day of peace, she has been battered, injured, went home to her parents and back so many times. My mum couldn’t leave the house because of me and my siblings for the fear of leaving us to another woman who may maltreat us.
Why am writing now is that am far from her now in another city but subsequently I get report of their fighting. I will call, cry all the time for this reason. I have even sent my mum to welfare in Owerri. They served my dad letter and he insulted the man who brought the letter and never answered the call up until now, my mum went back to them only for them to tell her that he has not yet answered their call, that there’s nothing they could do.
Am so heart broken that, everyday they fight my siblings around are always involved, and he kept laying curses on them, of sudden death. Sometimes they get injured in the course of their fight. Our compound people don’t even peep any time they fight as they have long been tired of separating.
What he does now is to lock the kitchen and leave them to starve for days. This night he has done it again. Am scared this could lead to another thing as my siblings are planning to break the door tomorrow because they’ve not eaten this night.
Please how can I help them? Its like the whole world has advised my dad but yet he doesn’t listen to anybody. The last time I saw my mom I cried, she doesn’t even look like someone who has eaten for one month, all because of my dad. Am helpless as am even yet to be married, struggling to get a job. What I experienced in that family as the first child has a very serious psychological effect on me. I don’t even have self confidence, always scared, and even my love life is totally affected. Always Scared at the hearing of the word marriage. Please what can be done urgently to save the current situation?
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Dare M answered 1 month ago
Hello, I want to assure you there is nothing God cannot do, what you stated there exactly happened in my home, you must act fast on this advice I want to give cos before you know what is happening things will begin to fall apart, our mum died during the whole drama, today everything has now settled we even had a Family reunion with the same Dad this past weekend, such is life, our Mum was the major casualty in the whole mess, today my dad is full of regrets for his actions, so you see you must act fast…
the real issue is your dad is not yet a real man and someone has not made him realize that, someone has to but it must be done with wisdom…you must ct fast cos in our own case before we knew what was happening our mum passed away,
Call your dad or find a means to seek audience with him, I am a believer in God and the Bible says…..the heart of a king is like streams of water and he directs it to wherever pleases him””’Pray first, ask God for your dads secrets, there are things that are making him act the way he is doing that he is keeping secret, the truth is ‘dogs bark whenever they see a stranger or strange thing’…..there’s a reason he’s behaving that way, only God can open your eyes to it, if he does either in a dream or by inspiration now confront your dad with it and you will see him begin to melt and wonder how come you knew those things, gradually you will start gaining a voice in his life and the rest of ‘riht’ things you’ve been telling hi that he always refuses to listen will not begin to take effect in his heart when you start talking again…but you need to pray, pray with this mind……Oh God, reveal the mysteries behind this Family problem to me’….in the Bible, God revealed the meaning of Pharaoh’s dream to Joseph, and he was able to gain the heart of the king to his own side and he gained the momentum of life from that point up….that is what you need…..and most importantly pls properly warn your siblings not to go physical or emotional with your Old man, tell them to just stay cool and let you pick things up gradually so as not to complicate things, I can assure you God sees in heaven beyond what men could ever see, consult Him he will show you the way, all the best to you….I also commend your concern towards your family, that shows you ‘love’, it shall be well with you…..regards!
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