My husband and I started dating when we were at university. We were deeply in love and got engaged 1 year after graduating. My husband got a job before me and started working long hours in bank but I made sure I got a flexible job and would ensure kept the home front and was very supportive.
Things have paid of for him, he is now one of the directors of the bank and he now roles with a lot of high powered individuals in society including celebrities. Now one thing I have noticed when we go out to parties or to functions is that a lot of his colleagues always come with women far younger than them or their wives. And from what my husband said, even the ones that have married for years, will have a girlfriend on the side. My husband assured me that he was above that, that he loves me and has no plans on cheating or leaving me.
However, over time he has started being critical of me and my looks. When we are eating at night, he will make comments about me eating enough. He will suggest that I go to the gym.
And I honestly think that a lot of his career has started going to his head. He has become a lot more arrogant, when we were looking to buy a new house, I went to talk to my father about advice. And my husband dismissed it as what would he know? he lived in a small house.
Other things too, when we are at parties and he would make a comment on how attractive a woman is. He will throw comments about how a very attractive colleague tried to hit on him at work. All of this really makes me feel uncomfortable about our marriage that it is not as secure as I once thought.
We have 2 children, girls. My husband is an Ibo man and now my fears are that he is working towards replacing me. He will make comments about how its biology that a man spreads his seed.
I have started going to the gym, eating less, wearing more makeup, but I cannot fight age. I am in my early forties and its starting to take a toll on me. All this exercise and makeup is not who I am. And in reality there is only so much I can do, I am not the tight, hot, twenty year old happening babe that men dream of. I don\’t know what to do? Should I just sit down and watch him humiliate me?

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