l have something that has been bothering me for months , i don't how to handle it maturely . I have been married for two years now, courted for a year, my husband stays abroad while am in nigeria, He has a two years old child though not married before which he told me before we got married ,i accept his child with good fate. My husband told no children till i join him , i accepted out love , believing my visa would be processed very soon. Things didn't work out the way we planned due financial situations which I still manage no matter little he gives me. But I still feel lonely sometimes depressed. Few months ago I told my husband that I want a baby, am tired of waiting with a gentle voice, only for him to tell me that he has a child oo, I can go get pregnant else where, he doesn't care. I was shocked ,couldn't talk, felt betrayed ,brokenhearted and a fool all this years, for believing no child till I join him. Though I have forgiven him. He traveled to the city where his babymama and child relocated to, once a month, sometimes spend a day or two not just with his child but babymama too though he doesn't sleep in the house with them according to him,which am no longer comfortable with any more ,spending time with his babymama too but don't know the best way to approach this. He hasn't told his babymama that he's married , reason.. he want me to join him first before he will tell her , she must not know he got married from Nigeria , though the lady had another baby with another man few months ago , my husband told me they ended their relationship before he met me . Honestly spending time with his babymama is affecting my trust for him even though I still love him. I am still wondering why all this attachment, with his babymama, I have nothing against his child, he takes good care of his child sometimes my own upkeep money have to wait to make sure the baby and mother is happy which I don't complain but not comfortable with the lady, I know pretty much that he didn't use her for green pasture. I will be joining him anytime soon by God's grace Please help on how to handle this issue Thanks.

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