The last time I posted on this platform was May 2015. I narrated my experience in the hands of my husband who treated me with so much hatred and how his girlfriend called to threaten me. He wasn't giving me money for food and general upkeep, he wasn't paying rent, he wasn't treating me like a wife all bcos I have no child. We got married in 2012, then my trouble in their house started. He is the first child, working class and earns well. His mom, brothers and only sister saw me as a nobody yet I was taking care of their mother and paying the bills in the house. I couldn't save as a result of piled-up bills. He goes to his car to receive phone calls from his family and anyday he decides to take the calls in my presence, I will hear him telling his brother to make sure he marries a small girl and he doesn't marry a nonentity. Meanwhile, he is 10 years older than me. I know I'm not a nonentity. I come from a good home, I'm young, good looking, I dress well, cook good food, do my house chores, make food for him when he wants to take food to work before leaving for my office by 7am. He abuses me verbally even in the presence of his villagers anytime we go to the village though we don't travel together. I pay my transport home and he drives his car home (we are in Abuja).We hardly go out together. He will ridicule me at the slightest opportunity. His sister has embarrassed me countless times and mostly during functions in their home town and I never confronted her for one day but her husband will come apologizing. This lady is his younger sister yet she tells him what to do. When this lady was lying sick for 2months, I took care of her, disposed her excretion, made food everyday with my money both for her, her hubby and anyone that came around to spend the night at d hospital. All these I did and still attended to official matters. For my family, he doesn't care if I have a mother. Let me cut the long story short. In Nov. 2015, he paid half of the rent for the first time since I got married to him. He called me thereafter and asked me why I haven't completed the money. I tried to explain to him that the hospital was gulping my money (he doesn't care if I wear pants how much more asking if I was going to hospital to find solution to our childlessness). Before I could say jack, he started raining abuses on me. At that time I was getting tired of living the way I was living but I didn't utter a word. On Dec. 1st, a young boy of about 22 related to me came on an emergency trip not to my house though but hospital (my husband knows him very well). The boy needed a shirt bcos the one he had on was soiled by his sister's baby. I took a tshirt from the clothes my husband kept and gave the boy (his brother brought them for him to give to people, especially young school boys). When he got back home I told him. Mamalettes, this man called me names (thief, criminal, useless, idiot, fool etc). I pleaded with him to stop shouting and promised to return it which I did the next morning but had to get another one for the boy from the shop. Mamalettes, from that day he kept malice with me and stopped eating my food (he does this anytime he feels like). I tried to make him change his mind all to no avail. It went on till I met my eldest brother on 13th morning cos my father is late. I was still in church for Christmas Carol when my brother sent me sms to see him. I was shocked when my brother said my husband told him that I refused to bring house rent and I stole the tshirt to give the boy. Therefore, he and his family have decided that I go back to my father's house. He didn't say a word to me till he left for his village on 1st Jan. 2016. I quietly packed my things and left on 5th Jan. and since then, neither him nor any of his family members has called to know where I am. I suffered in that marriage. It got to a point where I have to shapen my clothes everyday before I could wear them. I nearly lost my self esteem. 'FOOL' became my 2nd name. I'm better now and want to put an end to the marriage officially. I want to move on with my life. Mamalettes, how can I achieve this since we didn't do court wedding? We are both Igbos.

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