Hello Mamas, I have this issue that bothered me for a while but i'm gradually getting over it. I am a surgeon and I work pretty long hours. I have a PhD and a MD. I graduated from a prestigious university abroad. I'm not trying to brag about myself here. I'm proud of my decades of schooling and getting through it all in one piece. But I love my husband, and my husband works as a Maintenance personnel for a big company.
I met my husband almost twenty years ago and I fell in love with him. He is the kindest soul; he loves so hard, he treats everyone like they're his family. He dropped out of secondary school and got his diploma after our first daughter was born. He works full-time and never misses a day, even when he's sick.
A few years ago, we had our first real argument. I told him he didn't have to work, because I make enough for the two of us. Now that I look back at it, saying this was insulting and arrogant, but I didn't mean it that way. He doesn't like being a maintenance personnel; he hates the work, but it's "honest, necessary" work he always says.
However, every time someone asks what my husband does and I tell them, they have this look on their face. It's a look of disappointment and confusion. "Why would she be married to a guy that does that?"
All of the doctors and surgeons I work with are married to other doctors or lawyers or business people with college educations. Congratulations! I love to tell them about my husband and his work; I love to tell them how he can create things with his hands, how he can juggle being a full-time father and a full-time worker better than I can at times. I love to tell people how my husband loves to do the best he can with whatever he is given, even if that is not what he would want.
I love him so much. When people judge him, it makes me feel bad. He doesn't deserve that. I guess, maybe I feel embarrassed too? Maybe that's why I get so angry? I'm not embarrassed of him, but I'm embarrassed that I'm causing him this shame. He never lets it upset him, but I can feel his disappointment.
He's one of the smartest men I know. Degrees mean nothing. We can all learn from him. Love you, baby!

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