My fiance and I met at a wedding 2 years ago. Since then we became close, started dating and just recently got engaged. Since we started dating I started going to church more often. I noticed that he was very religious so I made sure I go to church twice a week, for mid-week bible study and again on Sunday. I was finally happy when he asked me to marry him. I am turning 30 next year and there has been so much pressure from my parents and other family members. Now the truth I have not always been very religious. I used to be a happening girl but that is all behind me now. I’ve put aside that part of my past, I’m a changed and different person now, and that past does not define me and it has nothing to do with who I am now. I really love this guy because he never pressured me to have sex with him. I realised he was thinking I was a virgin based on me now being very religious so I decided to tell him about my past before I became born again again and how I had in fact, slept with some people. I didnt give him a number. Before you judge me, let me tell you why I told him. I have read online and even here on Mamalette of husbands who get upset when they find out their wife has lied to them about her sexual history. So I decided I didn’t want to build our marriage on lies and thought he would  accept it if I tell him myself, that he would forgive me and still accept me because I know he loves me. I was wrong. When I told him about my past, he was very silent, he didn’t get angry. I also told him I was being honest because I wanted him to know the whole truth about my past before he commits to me, because he’s a good person and he deserves to know, and I love him too much to hide anything from him.
He thanked me for being honest with him and I thought that was where it would end. Less than a week later he broke up with me and said he was not doing again. He said he just realised he is not ready to marry and that he is sorry for wasting my time.
While he didnt mention what I told him about my past, I know that is why he broke off our engagement. Now I am so angry and upset.  I tried to be honest with him and this is what I got in return. Was it right to tell him the truth? Or should I just have kept quiet? I can’t believe that he will break it off and leave me hanging like this. What can I do now?

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