Anonymous asked 3 days ago
I am hoping I can get some advice here. I am married to a man who has an 11 year old son from a previous relationship. A son he hasn't really seen for the past 7 or so years so now. But of recent the child's mother decided she could not handle him and he's been living with us. Since he has been here I feel he has turned our lives upside down.
I know I sound like an evil stepmother here but unless you have lived with this child for the past 6 months like I have you just wouldn't understand. I feel he is actively trying to ruin my marriage, he is a bad influence on our children. He also curses and uses bad language. I think he is immoral and evil. I am born again woman and when we pray this boy will not close his eyes. Sometimes he will even be laughing when we are reading the bible or praying. He has disgraced us so many times in church. I feel so embarrassed about his child. I love my husband and thought I would love anything that was a part of him. But I was wrong. My husband feels guilty and is unwilling to do anything about him. I feel like if this child does not leave my house i will go crazy.
I don't know what to do.
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A concerned Christian sister answered 3 days ago
Being a follower of Jesus is sometimes extremely tough. I don't think God would have allowed this whole situation you're experiencing without making grace available. You probably won't see it that way, but this is your opportunity to allow God's love to shine through you and let your step-son experience first-hand what unconditional love looks like. What you just described is a VERY, VERY, hurt child who is expressing his hurt as anger, non-chalance and selfishness. I think that if you can put aside your probably well-justified emotional reaction and seek God's face on this, He will speak to you. Ask for the grace to do your Father's will in all this. He will take care of you and your kids and it will end in praise. Yours in Christ.
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