I have always dreamed of a big wedding, not extravagant to any extreme, but that’s just how all my family and friends’ weddings have been and ever since I was a little girl I knew that’s what I wanted.
My husband is from a very humble family but he has done well for himself. When he proposed I told him about my dream wedding. We debated  over what and what he would allow etc. I always wanted a big, Saturday night party reception, he wanted registry wedding with just us and our close family. So what we did was a small church wedding on a weekday and a reception in a nice hotel. I only had one bridesmaid and my maid of honour was my sister. The day was wonderful and I was so happy and I thought it was a good wedding. Then a year later my sister got married.
She had my dream wedding. Ever since then, the resentment has been growing steadily. All of our friends and family were there and everyone had an amazing time. It hands down was a better day for me than my wedding day. It was such a beautiful celebration of not only the love between my sister and my new brother-in-law, but of them as a couple and everyone they loved enough to include in their special day. The wedding took place in one of the biggest event centers in Lagos. Celebrity artists came to play, there was enough food and drink, she had 10 bridesmaids, the wedding was even on Bella Naija, the DJ was amazing and everyone danced all night, including my husband.
Her dress was so amazing, If I had to pick out the dress of my dreams, it was the one she wore. When she came out everyone was like wow and my husband actually said, “wow”. It broke my heart. I wanted that moment for myself so badly, I know that makes me sound like a spoilt person, but it’s true. I had actually picked out a nice dress for my own wedding, but my husband said it was probably too much for a registry wedding so I was a nice but simple white gown.
My sister just uploaded her wedding album to Facebook and I was looking at it and crying.  Our wedding was nothing like what they had. I know this is such a stupid issue but I am beginning to hate my husband for denying me the privilege of having a big wedding.  I havent said anything to him yet, but the resentment is growing and I don’t know what to do about it.

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