Parents, we all have fears, and it’s scary how our fears erode our waking and sleeping moments, I once had the fear of being choked, so I hated elevators, duffet, and being in a closed up place.
But that was then, now that I’m a mother, my fears have taken on a whole new level, and it’s not just about me, it’s about my children. I thought I was alone in this until I had a conversation with some of my friends and they disclosed their fears, it appears every parent has their own fears,
“That my kids will look back and be disappointed.”
My greatest fear is that in years to come, my kids will look back and wish I had been a better mom. I’m scared that I didn’t try enough or that I didn’t do my best by my kids. And this kind of thinking puts pressure on mums, they don’t want their kids to blame them later in life. Although with time I’ve been able to tell myself that “tomorrow I do not know, but I’ll make the best of today and live it.” We should learn to live in the present always.
– Kemi
“That my kids are going to either be kidnapped or harmed … “
The week my child was supposed to start school, I was so afraid. And when he finally went to school, I kept calling her teacher. My fear is that something terrible will happen to her. I even had a terrible nightmare recently, I think it’s a figment of my imagination, though. But will I get a bodyguard for them? The world is so full of many sad and crazy peeps and I’m sooo afraid, I just keep praying for protection everyday ….
– Olamipo
“I worry a lot about the friends my kids are going to have as they get older.”
I know that friends can make or mar a child. Peer pressure is the problem most kids have, since the people you spend most of your time with can easily influence you positively or negatively. So when I meet my kid’s friends I tend to analyse them even though it makes me seem like a crazed mom but I can’t help it.
-Susan
I worry about how they’ll deal with sex issues
Kids are usually so inquisitive, and sex is usually a topic that will always come up even from an early stage in their lives. I worry that they’ll not ask me questions but rather prefer to find out by themselves, and what would happen when they finally satisfy their curiosity?
– Etini
“I worry that I won’t be able to help her reach her full potential.”
I only went to secondary school and couldn’t further my studies, but I have a very brilliant kid, and sometimes when she brings her assignment home I spend a lot of time trying to figure it out. My fear is she’s only in primary 6, how would I help her when she’s even more knowledgeable?
-Nneka
“I have an intense fear of choking”
I’m always so afraid that I’ll wake up one morning to find one of my child choking to death. I think it stems out of the experience I had when I was younger and I was almost choked to death in my sleep. I have different images of me running to the hospital with my kids and so I made sure everything that can choke them is out of the house. I even know first aid and CPR.
-Yemisi
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