There are some women in our society today who we should applaud each day, and why? Because they are strong, they are married, yet live as a single woman.
I’m not talking about women who rarely see their husband because he works hard for the family here, I’m talking about women who are like flatmates with their husband.
I’ll give it to them that they are strong, what else but strength could have equipped them to endure the emotional and physical stress that they go through? You do know that some people didn’t go through half of that before dem go kolo mental.
And when I read write-ups where the wife states that she knows her husband’s girlfriend, I cry inside for her. Yes, people do advise that you turn a blind eye….. but is it that easy? This is someone you vowed to spend all your life with, which means you might as well spend the rest of your life treating STDs and nurturing a wounded heart, oh Lord!
Of course, it’s not only infidelity that makes you a single married woman, hell no! There are a whole lot of other pointers making you a single married woman, and here are some of them.
1. When you stop communicating
Communication is an important part of a relationship, and if you have a husband who makes decisions without consulting you, or who goes out of the house without telling you his whereabouts, then you are in this category. One word response is the order of the day and when either of you finally talk, it will be to complain or fight.
2. He doesn’t ever help with anything
It’s common for Nigerian men not to help in the kitchen, no be today, but when even the smallest thing like driving his kids to school on his way to work is something he can’t do, then you need to check your marriage. Communicate.
3. No sexual intimacy
Get this right, there are times a man is just too tired to do all the “gbogbogbo” of romancing and touching, he just wants to get down to business and cum, that’s okay sometimes. But when you have a husband that makes love to you and when he’s done (in 2 minutes) he goes on, wash off the cum and gets back to his phone. No cuddling, no small talk, and no intimacy at all, he might even go back to pressing his phone. Then you’ll feel used and angry and a lot of other emotions.
4. There’s no love lost between you two
You will please pardon what I’m going to say now for you might not like it, your husband may be cheating on you and yet care for you(he’ll even hide his cheating). But when you have a husband who doesn’t give a f**ck what happens to you or if he hurts your emotion, you are married but single.
This is the kind of man that will cheat (he won’t even care if you find out he’s cheating) and when you find out, the answer is to beat you and tell you to go back to your father’s house. Living with this kind of man is torture, your heart will bleed, your ego as a woman will be bruised and you will wonder if he’s doing that because you don’t deserve to be loved, it’s not your fault, he’s just an ass.
5. He cheats and tells
Yeah, that’s right. I heard it with my two ears. A friend told me her husband came home one day with a boy and told her; “take care of this boy for me, her mother is fucking up”. Mouth agape, she asked; “Who is the father?” “Me of course, and if you can’t, someone else will,” He said puffily.
Oh well, she had always known he had girlfriends, but bringing the kid to her and threatening her? That was beyond the limit. She couldn’t leave him, though, she had her reasons…….
If you have a man who cheats on you and doesn’t even care if you find out, you are a single married woman.
The list is endless, but then I don’t want to be seen as a pessimist who sees something bad in everything. And why this? I’ve seen a lot of unhappy women who cry on the inside but smile outside. Who cries into their pillow late into the night, and I want to say if you’re going through this, if you’re a single married woman, you are not alone.
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