Personal Stories of Miscarriages As Told By Mamalettes

When a woman suffers miscarriage or miscarriages she feels the loss; the loss of the little life growing inside of her, the loss of her joy, and that hollow, empty feeling in her womb.

A Mamalette who had an incomplete miscarriage shared her story

"After the result confirmed I was pregnant. I started bonding with the baby immediately. About a month after, I went to the convenience room in my office and saw blood on my pant, immediately my heart started pounding and racing I quickly sat on the water closet when I could not stand on my legs again.

As a usual practice I take my phone with me to the toilet. I immediately called my husband with my shaky voice that I just saw blood. He encouraged me and said let's watch it. Immediately he called the doctor a gynecologist this time around and the doctor said we should watch it. If the flow increase we should come to the hospital. For 3 days I was so depressed because I'm always having a brown bloody discharge.

Doctor advised that I take bed rest so I took time off work. And to my amazement it was as if the bed rest pushed out more blood, before 4 pm I had used 4 pads. At this time I kept calling my husband and he could not even concentrate at work. I called the doctor and he said we should come to the hospital but it was already late at night.

I started having menstrual like cramps, but I kept enduring still confessing in tears that I won't cast my young, we didn't have a car then, so getting to the hospital was not easy, when I got to the hospital, I was rushed immediately to the emergency room. There was this British nurse in the hospital that just sat beside me in d emergency room and held my hand and consoled me. I was rushed to do a scan to ascertain the effect of the bleeding.

And it was confirmed that part of the foetus was out already. I now remembered that while I was taking my bath in the morning a big clot came out like the size of chunk of meat, I quickly used my leg to sweep it into the bath hole when my husband saw me, he was so mad that I should have called him to see it. But the sight wasn't appealing. And at that time I wasn't looking for anything to discourage me.

After the scan the doctor said they were going to evacuate the remaining part of the debris, while they put me in the preparatory room before I got into the theatre I was crying. Then the time came for the evacuation. I was wheeled into the theatre and the doctor said it's just a 45 minutes procedure that I will be fine.

I was sedated and I woke up to reality again. No pregnancy. No baby. I started thinking of what people will say, the question they will ask me, I summoned courage, got encouragement from friends, from family and everyone around so my soul was lifted. But throughout the time I was off work and alone at home, I was depressed, then I started writing my pains on paper as poem, I wrote 10 poems and after each I felt relieved."

The above is what an incomplete miscarriage is like, the feelings that comes with losing a baby is so indescribable, you feel numb and lifeless as if you are having a nightmare and wish it will be all over.

 

Another Mamalette shared her story about her Missed Miscarriage

"The early weeks of my third pregnancy was not different from the same I experienced when I had my first two children. I constantly fell sick, my boobs were hurting and I'm always very tired. The symptoms were the same everyday 

Until suddenly it wasn't.

I went to the hospital and they ran a test, I was not prepared at all for what was awaiting me, and with tears in her eyes the ultrasound technician declared that there was no heartbeat.

I was confused, I was not bleeding, and neither did I see any blood clot or sign of blood whatsoever. My breath ceased, and I felt like the room was closing in on me and about to swallow me up.

As I tried to process what she was telling me, she told me I probably lost the baby a week before and it seemed I've had a miscarriage. I've been made to know that miscarriages come with bleeding and so this was totally new to me. My head whirled, something is not right, how can I have had a miscarriage without bleeding?"

This kind of occurrence is called a missed or silent miscarriage, this is because the embryo or foetus dies but doesn’t actually leave the uterus and that is why you may not experience pain and bleeding which are the usual signs of a miscarriage. And the only sign you can notice is the loss of symptoms and/or seeing a brownish discharge.

A missed miscarriage feels so unreal, and you may feel like it's a dream, as if the uterus was never there in the first in the first place.

What makes miscarriage more hard to overcome is that women find it hard to talk openly about it, and so you might not have any idea what it is about until you experience it. But talking to people have revealed that so many other mothers have had the same experience. And talking to other people helps lessen the burden and reduce the pains of having empty palms after so much hopes.

And that is why it's important to keep talking about miscarriage, so that we may be able to help women who find themselves in this kind of situation to scale through the emotional and psychological pain they are experiencing, when they know they are not alone.

Have you ever had a miscarriage? Did you find it helpful to talk to people about your loss?

Comments

Comments