No Mother Should Put Their Children Through This

The day some women learn to let go of their ego is the day their life will change for the best, Mama Adigun a mother of four children for four men is one woman that's full of ego, because of it she can't live under a man's roof, because of it she would rather suffer her children than ask for or accept the help of any of her children's father, it's that bad.

When we first packed into the neighbourhood, her one room apartment was the lone building in the bush, when I found out it was a woman with three children that was living there I was surprised. How reckless can a woman be, living in a room in the forest (no roof or window) with three small children. Anyone with evil mind could hold them at gun point in broad day light and pack them off for ritual sacrifice and no one would know they've gone missing, what was she thinking?

These thoughts ran through my head as I watched the lone house, the afternoon of the day we packed in, she came to congratulate us, then smiled "at least now we have another house around, we've been the only one living here for three years (her last born was only a year old when she packed in), again I wondered what sent her packing from her husband's house.

With time I got to know her, her job was to search for tins and iron with her kids, pack them together and take them to people that buy crap and they can look for those stuffs for months before it can accumulate enough for them to sell them out and until that happens they'll eat the vegetable at the back of their house, fetch palm oil from a neighbour and buy rice and garri on credit.

 

Then I started home tutor and she enrolled her kids, that was when I knew a lot of things. Apparently she doesn't want the children's father to have a part in their life so that when they "become something" in life they'll have no say in it.

From her words I found out she can't take "any rubbish" from any man and so immediately a man starts acting up kia kia she don pack her load and she's gone like she was never there, she said this with so much pride.

I don't have any problem with her leaving her first and second husband but the third and fourth? And she allowed herself to get pregnant for them? And she said she doesn't want their support? That was way extreme and inconsiderate of the kids.

 

Now those kids are living the life of a destitute, they move from school to school because she can't pay their school fees and each time they send them away from one school, she switch them to another. Even the tutorial I did for the children (they quit school for tutorial) I still haven't been paid for my 7 months work, I know I can't even collect the money again.

These children are brilliant, with bright dreams and a mad love for their mom but how far will that take them? Yes they finish primary school (through duping schools) and then public secondary school but what about university? Is there any hope of such for them?

If only she'll let go of her pride and ask each of their fathers for support abi is it not children that you train that'll "become something"?

Two of her children are girls, while her first born (a girl) walk with her head down as if she has given up on life, the second girl is still full of life, hopes and dreams but what happens when her eyes open to reality that all her dreams are sweet but almost impossible? What if they choose the easy way out; get pregnant for the first man to offer them what their mom never offered?

 

 

I don't care much for the mother who chose her path but for the children because, by making those decisions a lot has changed for the children, they are smart and with big dreams but her rash decision might cut those dreams short.

Let ego and anger not guide any decision we make in life or we may end up regretting for life.

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