I know men are seen as machos who can handle anything that comes their way, but it appears when it comes to newborns and having babies, they are scared shitless. Even if your guy is enthusiatic about being a dad, there’s a chance he’ll still freak out when baby is finally born, here are the giggest fears of new dads;
And howyou can helpyour man
FEAR #1: “Will I do okay as a dad?”
TIP: No man was born a dad, make it known to him that it’s okay to be clueless as to how to be a dad to your newborn. With time and practise he’d get better. Meanwhile, you have to teach him some things. Practice makes perfect.
FEAR #2: “I fear not being able to properly provide for my family once baby is here.” —Yinka
Tip: Your wife is pregnant already there’s no going back, what you need to do now is to do your homework, do a rough estimate of how much you’d be spending while your wife is pregnant, during delivery and after baby is born. If you think you don’t have enough, double your hustle and cut cost, but you’d do fine!
FEAR #3: “I’m scared that everything we do will now be centered around babies.” —James
Tip: It’s true that most men complain that after children the attention is shifted from them and to the newborn, if this happens talk to your wife. Meanwhile, your social life will still be fine even after having kids.
FEAR #4: “My biggest concern is that having a baby will force me to grow up and I’m not sure I’m ready.” — Uche
Tip: True your children will come to look up to you so yes you have to give them a good image so they can walk in your step, but there are some things you don’t really have to give up, like social outings with you friends.
FEAR #5: “I heard newborns don’t sleep(menaing I won’t sleep too) and lack of sleep makes me really cranky.” —John
Tip: For the first few weeks, forget sleep! But you’ll sleep again and you can work this out with your wife, for example, one of you can handle the late-night shift on weekdays and the other on weekends. And you can get your grandma to help out sometimes.
FEAR #6: “That the baby will be born with defects.” —Williams
Tip: Don’t be silent, such defects are usually detected early on unless it’s one that happens at birth so talk to your doctor, once they give you the stats your mind can be at rest
FEAR #7: “Not being a good father. My father was abandoned us, I fear I might be like him.”– Seyi
Tip: You can decide to emulate your father or do otherwise, the choice is yours. And no, you aren’t your father, you can decide to be different”
FEAR #8: “I’m travelling for a year and I’m scared that when I get home, she won’t know who I am and she’ll cry when I try to hold her.” —Tom
Tip: Video chats, daily call, and kissing his photo at night will ensure the bond is kept tight. Even if baby doesn’t meet the father but sees him every night, she’ll know her daddy when she sees him.”
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