Even before I met and married my wife, I’ve been a lover of children, children are comfortable around me and I can’t count the number of times I baby-sit my nephew and nieces, so how do I explain this sudden feeling of jealousy I have towards our baby?”
I promised my wife to be the best husband and dad ever, told her my dreams for my child even while he was in the womb, promised to teach him different things I’ve learnt and have fun together, but now, I’ve turned to the father who is beefing her son!
I went as far as to tell her how I’d be the first person to introduce some vices to him, let him taste cigarette and when he coughs out loudly I’d tell him “see son, this is why you shouldn’t smoke” although to that, my wife never agreed, she thought it’s too crazy.
That should speak volumes about how excited I was to be a father.
But then the baby arrives and things changed.
First, the initial jubilation at the birth of the baby and then the neglect, everybody including my wife, neglected me and focused all attention to my boy.
No one cares if I’ve eaten, no one asks about my day after a long tiring day at work. And to make matters worse, I’m excluded from everything concerning the baby, all she says is “my baby” not once did I hear her say”our baby”.
They seem to be bonding fine, but most times when I carry Tony he’d start fussing and then Christy will collect him from me and he’d stop crying. Seriously!
The look which Christy used to bestow on me now belongs to my son, I find myself longing for that look again, that dazed and loving look which is worth much more than a thousand dollars now belongs to my son. I don’t mind that most of the things I once owned now belongs to him, that’s perfectly fine since that’s the wish of every parent.
I just need a little bit of love and to be allowed to bond with our baby too, after all, we made him together, but how do I tell my wife all these without sounding like a jerk and like I’m unworthy to be a father?
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