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After two miscarriages and losing a child at birth, when Bola became pregnant again, she couldn't believe it. Her journey to motherhood was rougher than she had ever expected, and when she finally got pregnant she was full of hopes and scared at the same time, would this baby live or would she lose him again like she did the others?
She'd rub her tummy lovingly and then stop herself, "I shouldn't get attached with this baby, what if...." Anytime she thinks about the little one growing inside her, she'd remember how hopeful she had been with the three others and how they never stayed.
I had a hard time convincing her to buy anything for the baby, she'd laugh sometimes and then burst into tears again "if I lose this baby again, I can't bear it, the pain will kill me" She'll say through choked voice.
And I who have not one experience in the field will rack my head in vain for what to say to console her, I often assure her that her baby will live and to that she'll respond "how can you be so sure?"she'd counter
At the 20th week of her pregnancy, she called me up around midnight crying and speaking through her tears "It sss gone againnnnn" I wiped sleep off my eyes with the back of my hand as I responded "what's gone" in a half sleepy tone, "my baby, my baby is gone, oh no, not again, God why" she lamented I sprang off the bed and before I could say anything again she dropped the call.
Her husband who was on tour called me immediately to help him get her to the hospital, as my driver drove us to the hospital "what happened" I asked "I saw blood, Tomi, I saw blood again just like the first one"
"This can't be happening to me, this is not fair"
I had nothing to say to that so all I did was hold her as she cried, wetting me with her tears of pain, we got to the hospital and were fortunately for her, it was just normal bleeding, although it was much more than most women normally experience, but her baby was still intact.
She burst out laughing and crying at the same time, I guess she didn't know which one to do, I just stood there not knowing how to react.
She gave birth to her baby early this year and for good three days, she never slept, even with the eye bags and red eyes she just couldn't be persuaded to sleep, she checks on her baby Victoria every single minute. This minute she was checking if she was still breathing, the next she wanted to know if she was too cold or okay, the fourth day when she finally slept, she slept like person wey don die.
I understand that being pregnant with a rainbow baby isn't easy for women who have lost a child or had miscarriages so her behaviour wasn't at all surprising, thank God for God who gives hope to the hopeless now my friend has joined the club of parents, may that be the portion of every TTC Mamalette!
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