You can call me old-fashioned and I’m not ashamed to be called that. I got married at the age of 35 and my husband was in his late forties. Our kids didn’t start coming until after 5 years of marriage. It was not an easy feat for an older couple to be dealing with fertility issues but my husband never gave up on me even when I gave up on myself due to societal pressure. He stood by me, considering our age difference you would think otherwise but he believed in me. We are an elderly couple but we are young at heart and I think calling by his name is not right, so I call him “my king” and he calls me his “queen”
Whenever people hear us say that, they grinned, a friend of mine in particular, find it offensive I address my husband in that terms but I didn’t see anything wrong in it. When the kids started coming, and they begin to talk, I felt it will be confusing for the kids hearing me call their dad ‘my king’, kids have a way of emulating what their parents call themselves. So I decided I should be calling him “daddy” like the kids are calling him and he started calling me “mummy” too.
But have noticed that people grinned the more with the transition, some of my friends find it funny and have seen how most people reacts to it in public whenever we are outside. I don’t understand why people will feel offended how I address my husband. We had a situation where we went to my parent’s place for my dad’s birthday celebration. It was an indoor party among selected family and friends. It was quite confusing when I beckon on my husband and my dad always responds alongside with my husband, it was embarrassing. I had to explain every time who I’m actually calling. I had to be making eye contact with him every time I need him at the party.
I feel we are too old to be calling ourselves endearments like “sweetheart, honey, sugar” or any other sugar coated words people call their spouse. I just found out the words going around my friends is that I’m worshipping my husband or as they call it “idolizing” him. I don’t see anything wrong with how I address him or how he addresses me, it is just who we are.
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