I have three lovely boys that are the light of my life and there was a point when they were the only reason life was worth living. I was extra big and loving my body was impossible and to top it all, hubby was cheating and he didn't even keep it a secret yet I had no profitable job so quitting the marriage isn't an option. On days when I feel like crying my eyes out I look at my kids and tell myself "they are worth it all."
Then I met a friend that helped me develop a love for my body like never before she had a saying "it's not only exercising your body that matters, it's exercising up your mind to accept and love your body". I've started working on my body and even though it's not perfect I love it! Here are the things I learnt from her to that made me love my body effortlessly;
1. Think forward
In some years time when you are probably 60 years or older, what would you say to your grandchild? "Oh I rocked that dress when it was reigning" "I had great fun" or would you be thinking "I wish I had been confident in my own skin" "I wish I had loved my body 30 years ago". To live without regret, you need to love, cherish and appreciate what you have today, your body inclusive.
2. Realise that your body is amazing
If you've never looked at your body and appreciate it, shame on you! It carried and nurtured your little one for months and when it was time it helped you push it out. It allows you to do a lot and enjoy yourself, it deserves to be loved and worshiped, not shamed!
3. Beauty isn't about perfection
Skinny isn't the only beautiful shape, fat is too. Light skinned girls aren't the only beautiful ones, the dark and chocolate girls are too. What this means is that there's no concrete definition of beauty but you can have your own personal definition of beauty. Be happy with your body and that means the stretch marks on your body and the cellulite doesn't make you less beautiful.
4. Never wish you were someone else
You are unique just by being yourself, but immediately you start wishing you were like someone else then you are a waste. That's because you don't see the need to be better at being yourself, instead you'll work towards being like the other person, meanwhile no matter how much you try, you'll always be the replica of the original person. When people look at you, it may be because they love one thing about you yet you are there thinking all they are seeing is your imperfection.
5. Buy clothes that compliment you
You don't need to buy expensive clothes, just clothes that fit you, brings out your best shape and hide the flaws. Your clothes should also be of colours that makes you brighten your mood. Make it a rule that whatever cloth you buy must flatter and make you feel great about yourself. If you are on the big side, wearing a tight cloth that'll bring out all your flabs isn't flattering but make you feel tight, uncomfortable and hate yourself.
6. Love the person in the mirror
Strip naked in front of the mirror, walk around it and write out three good things you see, it doesn't have to be physical, it could be other things. Those are reasons you should love yourself.
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