I know a lot of you have so many stories to tell, don’t we all? I have a lot to say but I won’t bore you with all the details, although there are some things I really wish I knew before getting married and those are the things I’ll gladly share with y’all. My wedding is only 5 years this August yet it feels like I’ve been married since ages. Yes, I feel lucky because of the things we have been able to achieve in the 5 years of our marriage still I wish I’d known some things I know now.
And here are those things;
1. Couples fight about money
No matter your financial status, rich, poor or average, you will argue about money, how to spending it, save it, where and how to save funds for the security of your children and your old age. Every married couple fight about money.
2. Change
Your personalities will change, some characteristics may surface that you never knew was there, some traits may get better, it’s just part of growing together. It’s not so bad though, you’ll get used to each other’s new personality as long as you let go of what used to be.
3. You marry the family
When you commit to your spouse, you commit to their mom, dad, siblings, their spouses, friends and on and on. Even though they are not your family, they are still family and at such you have to try and get along well with them.
4. A lot change after kids
There are days I get angry that my spouse isn’t offering a helping hand at taking care of the kids, and other times, I’m just so full of so much love to have such a wonderful husband and father to my kids when watching him sing songs along with them. Your love turns real or sore when kids enter.
5. You’ll hate some of your spouse’s habits that you once found adorable
There are some things that you might see as super cool before marriage but after marriage it will annoy you for example before marriage: He likes playing with danger cause he finds it exhilarating and yeah I loved him for that. After marriage: Don’t you dare! We have kids now and I can’t father and mother them alone” When he tries diving into the deep sea at the beach.
6. You might be jealous of your husband
After kids, I added some extra pounds, I’m saddled with the responsibility of taking care of the kids while my dear husband has never changed one bit and he can come and go as he pleases knowing his wife can handle things. I wish I had that kind of freedom.
7. There’s more to marriage than love
There’s more to marriage than love, deep friendship, being able to talk things out, compromising, making life fun for each other, being kind and considerate of your other half, lifting your spouse up when they need it, not hanging to disagreements and making serious effort to make it work. Marriage needs love to keep it alive though.
Mamalettes! What are those things you wished you knew before marriage? Share please!
Comments
Comments
